Whoa whoa whoa! You don't get to see a counselor? You don't get to seek out any help? Have any backup? Get further information? You're supposed to just flounder around in the sea of her emotion and try to stay afloat? Obviously I don't approve.
I'm sorry that things turned sour for you, Chuck. I wish they stayed sunny, but this gives me a tiny opportunity to whisper something in your electronic ear: maybe she doesn't have your best interests at heart. That doesn't necessarily have anything to do with the bipolar.
Anyone with bipolar should want their loved ones to learn as much as possible about
the disorder but it sounds like no matter what you do she's leaving by degrees. I'm so sorry. I wish there were something more I could do than to tell you to take care of yourself. You deserve so much better. (((hugs)))