B/P fiance i'm fustrated

Hi Everyone,

Right now I live alone, however my fiance wanted to buy a house soon and I am hesitant. I am scared because I can only take so much of the mood swings and all. I am afraid if we live together things are gonna change for the worse. she has a 14 yr old who she doesn't really want to take responsability of. i do it all on wkends. it makes me sad not angry.

These are the simptoms she has...

sleeps constantly when not working

lazy- no motorvation

deep depression

snaps at me

expects me to do everything. never offers to help

keeps going through med changes. has been on everything under the sun. now her doctor is taking her off lithium and trying her on a new med. i have a hard time dealing with so many med changes because she also is negative doesn't look at the positive.

i mean is this part of b/p or is just an excuse not to do anything to better herself.

please help me i'm at my witts end after 4 yrs of this. i love her but i dont know how much longer i can take it.

 

Hi Sunshine,

I would say that it sounds like her depression (her bp) is primarily the cause of these behaviors. That isn't to say that she can't change or that you can't talk to her and ask for some more help on her part. It's just that she may not have the resources to be able to give it. You're absolutely right that you need to be brutally honest with yourself about how much you can put up with. It's probably good to have qualms about getting a house with a woman who has trouble facing responsibilities. On the other hand, if she's pretty high functioning, can hold down a job and pay her bills, it might be just fine.

serafena