My wife and i have been together for 10 years and married for 6. We have four beautiful children under the age of five.
here is where it gets fun. about every two years she goes through her cycle. I have just, on this last cycle finally acknowledged the bipolar possibilities. The first time she just got bored and up and left while i was asleep. she had affairs and then a few months later came back and wanted to work everything out. The next time this happened, i had joined the military, we were two kids deep, and we were stationed in japan. She, out of the blew started partyin all the time and sleeping around (didnt have proof until she admitted it just recently) The final time, which is as of the last three weeks. She left for a weekend to visit friends and in those two days had another affair, came back, in a different state of mind, and continued the affair over the phone and through txts and pictures. I finally told her if she wanted to leave then leave. So, she left me and our four kids to go four states over to live at her "unconfirmed" boyfriends house.
well while this was transpiring i removed her from all cc and bank accounts, vehicles and insurance, incl. cell phone. She was not to happy about any of it to say the least (also didnt tell her i was doing it though, but i had hardcore proof of the infedelity). I have also filed for divorce and custody of kids. Two weeks into her cycle, about 3 days ago, she called me and wanted to "talk", so far she has shown no remorse and no mention really of any feelings towards me, just that she misses the kids and she wants to come back, even it its on the couch.
I am fighting feelings of affection and guilt, but also know i need to protect my kids. She will not admit to her cycle or possibility of BP or going to see a psychiatrist. I have been told to stand strong on the divorce ppw and it may make her face her disease (she hasnt hit rock bottom yet)
my question is when is to much TOO much. I am honestly just now persuing the disease and its traits, but i have been cheated on many many times.....forgiveness doesnt run out but dealing with the mood swings and adultery does.
i ended the last conversation we had (the 2nd phone call) with she needs to seek help, i started with some of my family members that understand the disease, or the pastor from the church we attended when we lived there. Am i doing the rigth thing....i am fighting so many emotions i dont know which direction is up......