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Posted 8/28/2009 5:39 PM (GMT 0)
Hi im new here and my spelling is bad.
I have been married for 8 years. My wife left with anether man 2 and half years ago.

She came crying back 19 months ago . I took her back because I love her so we went to the doctors and they have been playing with different pills . They put her on a new pill in may but she never took them she would puke when she drank.

On aug 1 st she flipped out and told me she has never loved me and only came back for the kids. She told me she never took the new pills that it was me that was her problem. All the things she was doing up to that point leads me to belive there was a neother man again .She has split and signed over the house kids cottage and is paying support she is going supper fast . I love her so but im done im worried that this time when she crashes and has nothing and I have the kids she is going to snap. When I see her now she acks like everything is wonderful. When she came back the last time and was back from the doctor she was worried she asked me never to leave her I said I woudent but she keeps spliting .Not one person from her family has called.She will be bankrupt very soon. I dont know what to do.
Posted 8/28/2009 5:46 PM (GMT 0)
She says there is nothing wrong but im also found all the paper work from the shrink that she never filled out and handed back in. How long can a person think what they are doing is right and that nothing is wrong.I asume that this is the manic stage. No women would split on there kids and pay support if they were ok i think .I tryed to talk to her sister in law but they dont seem that worrid . I dont know what she has told them. She cant even look me in the eyes.
Posted 8/28/2009 6:28 PM (GMT 0)
either she is bipolar or she just doesnt care. i have no idea but unless she wants help you cant help her. the best thing for you to do is to for you to forget about her and focus on your kids. they are gonna need you more than ever
Posted 8/28/2009 6:43 PM (GMT 0)
Mike1719,

If she is untreated and unwilling to admit that she has a problem that needs to be dealt with through medication and therapy, there is nothing that you can do to ever make the situation better.

This is just my opinion but I have some experience. The leaving and coming back seems to be very common. The mania sets in, they think that you are the enemy and are holding them back. They run away to live the life they dream of. Then when they come back down they realize how important and special you were and want you back. Untreated, this cycle will just continue to happen.

I'm at the end of my marriage to my wife with BP. I know I wanted to do everything I could to keep the marriage together and stay with her, both out of a sense of duty, and for my daughter. I imagine you might be feeling this too. Its difficult to admit defeat because it feels like you have failed, even though you haven't. Marriage to a person with BP is like playing a game where you think you know the rules, you think you are winning, only to find out the rules changed six months ago and no one bothered to tell you.

All I can say is that it is incredibly hard being the spouse of a person with BP, and you should not feel guilty in letting her go and moving on for the sake of your children and yourself. As much as it might hurt now, there will be a future without her where you and your children can experience the things you deserve.
Posted 8/29/2009 4:07 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Mike,

I'm sorry for what you're going through. It sounds awful. She needs help, but you've done your share. Advise her to see a psych ASAP and get on her medical regimen. Bipolar only gets worse, not better. I wish her luck,

yours,
serafena
Posted 8/31/2009 3:03 PM (GMT 0)

Thanks everyone

My son just came home from his weekend vist with his mom .The first one and she had her new man with her in bed my son is so confused . she only gets him every two weeks she could have told him to not be there .she tells me that all is wonderful. she has racked up the visa to 10 grand in there weeks .thank god i got my name off of it. She is on a mission she only cares about this new guy. I am so done with her but it hurts so . I wish i never took her back the last time. Do people with bipolar really think what they are doing is ok. How do you walk away from your kids.She cant even talk to me about what she is doing .Interdoucing our son to a new live in boyfriend in three weeks. She is even lieing to her friends and she wont even talk to most of them.It like she has a new life and the old one was never there. But I still care so much about her .

Posted 8/31/2009 3:07 PM (GMT 0)
All my mom keeps telling me is there is a lady out there who would really apreacheate a guy like me and at the end of the day i have my kids.  One more question how do people with pb do there job everyday when it is a very busy job  I know it is one of the most inpotant thinks to her  the job is her life

Posted 9/1/2009 2:37 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Mike,

Yes, bipolar people are ill, and the illness affects their decision making skills. Please remember that not all bipolar people are like your wife. Also, remember that your wife is making her own decisions and sometimes the problem is the person, not the illness.

serafena
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