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Posted 3/3/2010 6:40 PM (GMT 0)
Hey everyone,

I'm just feeling low today. It's coming up on the 1 year anniversary of my dad's death (he was young, too) and I'm eager for a break from work (Spring Break is next week). I'm feeling like just taking to bed for the rest of the day but I have a 4-year old who would no doubt protest, and household stuff to take care of.

I guess I'm just feeling blue and whiny. Thanks for listening.

(((hugs)))
serafena
Posted 3/3/2010 6:54 PM (GMT 0)
we all have our bad days. I was looking forward to a bouncy day today, but instead I'm just bored by everything in the house and no motivation to get anything done.
Posted 3/3/2010 7:07 PM (GMT 0)

Hi serafena,

I cannot believe it has been a year already since your Dad passed away, I do remember, and please know that I am thinking of you.  I don't know you really, but I know that you are strong and you will pull through.  Try to do something soothing or pleasurable for yourself smile  Take care, we are here for you!

Posted 3/4/2010 2:08 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks guys! I hope you're both doing okay too. Feeling a little more positive this morning.

serafena
Posted 3/4/2010 3:48 PM (GMT 0)
I'm glad you're feeling better today...the good thing about feelings
is that they're always changing...especially for us Bipolars!!!
Posted 3/4/2010 7:45 PM (GMT 0)
Hey there fearless moderator, sorry to hear you are feeling down. Here are two things that i hope make you feel better.

I lost my father in 1994 and my mom in her grief cleaned out the house and got rid of everything my dad had cared about. So i had nothing of my fathers to keep and remember him by. My father and i were both interested in lionel toy trains however my mom had gotten rid of everything so i had nothing. THis last chrismas my mom gave me a box filled with my old junk from the house, when i went thru it in jan i found a small surprise. This item was my fathers from his original train set, it isnt rare or valuable but it is priceless to me. Its asiple piece of a train set from the 1920's but i now have a piece of my dad on my mantle piece. Here is a picture, it looks great for being 90 years old and been in a box in the attic for god knows how long.


And if that doesnt cheer you up how about a picture that makes me laugh every time i see it. My puppy thor being a clown.





Hope this helps you lady, god knows you have helped me more than i can count.

Hugs from Bill
Posted 3/6/2010 1:36 PM (GMT 0)

Hello Serafena,

My therapist once told me that subconsciously our mind remembers those dates & reacts to them.  Anyway, it's only been a year & I think it is part of the grieving process to remember & feel sad around this time.

I usually buy a single rose and put it in a solitaire vase and light one candle next to it and keep it burning throughout the day on the anniversary of someone's death who is very special to me.  Everytime I see it I try to remember something positive about that person.  I keep the flame alive all day.  When my family see it they ask about it and we all share.

Everyone is entitled to a "slack day" or "mental health day" especially those with mental illness in my opinion, so on those days that I feel like not cooking or doing housework or absolutely nothing I go with the flow.  I just have days like that sometimes and love ones around me understand that and pick up the slack for me.  As long as we don't let it linger too long (more than a couple of days).

Thinking of you and sending ((Hugs)) during your time of sadness.

~sukay~

Posted 3/6/2010 4:13 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you all again. I'm so lucky to have such a bunch of sweeties in my corner! I love the train remnant, Bill. And I especially love the dog!!!! And you are all so right. We should feel alright about taking time out. I know I will feel better soon, but it's going to be a tough month.

serafena
Posted 3/6/2010 8:26 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks Serafena for being there for us. Hope you are going to feel better and allow yourself some down time.

We all need to allow ourselves to grieve and I always feel sad when my dad's anniversary comes around even if I
don't really notice the date, my mind and body seem to react to that time of year.

Keep your head up, and remember you have lots of friends here that care for you.


Thank you again, I am sorta new on the block but I really appreciate this place and everyone in it.

Like Mogli said do something nice for yourself. And don't worry too much about the housework.

Christine
Posted 3/6/2010 10:56 PM (GMT 0)
I am sorry to hear that you are down....... things will improve  soon...

hugs, Caren

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