I am becoming more and more convinced that we of the bipolar group are very very fragile when it comes to the emotional swings of those we love. We do depend on them to provide a rock for us to anchor ourselves to help keep us under control. When they act out and take away that rock we are cast adrift (sorry for all the naudical themes 
) I know i am very very dependent on my wife having a stable state and when she isnt, i suffer very badly from that. I feel unloved, betrayed, lost, alone, depressed, sucididal, the works.
You two just got married and are facign a crisis. This is going to be a time of big swings and emotional turmoil as you not only learn to live with each other, but with the 800 lbs gorilla in the room (Bipolar). Can you do it, YES. But you will both need to get some help, therpay, and do your best to let slights and hurts slide off your soul and not stain it for the future. I'm ADD which i believe helps a lot here because i can never remember what i was supposed to be angry about to begin with. LOL 
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Just hang in there, and keep talking. You can get thru this.
Bill