Being the holidays, everything seems to get magnified and made worse by the nearness of them. Your husband is problally floundering around trying to find his bearings. Our jobs are such a huge part of our life and identiy. He now no longer knows who he is, and like i said, its the holidays, it makes things worse.
as for you, you need to just tell your hubby that that is your place to go to. That some walls are neccessary for a successfull marriage. That he has your support but that you need your place to unwind and relax at.
Just give it some time, like i said before, the holidays are the worse for making small problems huge, and large problems seeiming insurmountable. Just get alot of sleep, it will help you also.
Bill