19yo

My daughter is fighting with herself to be independent. However she doesn't have enough money to take care of all her financial bills. (5 speeding tickets this year, deciding to redecorate her room, etc., tires for her car, other car repairs) She is mad at me that i can't step up to pay her bills. I am still praying that I will get disability, but even still, i don't have extra $$. So we just seem to be battling. She feels that she is taking care of me, because of my mental illness. Ok I am just blathering on. I am just frustrated with being a single mother and not knowing what to do next.

Strike a balance. Sit down and have a mature, honest conversation with her about what you need from her and what she needs from you. If both parties want a peaceful relationship they may have to give a little to get a little.

It seems the bills she wants paid (tickets, room re-dec) aren't necessities. Asking for help on car insurance or something is a little more realistic. Just keep the dialog open and calm. Don't point fingers or lecture.

After another 'discussion', I called my therapist and we are going in together next week.