My husband is bipolar and does things then denies doing it

Hi. I'm new here and I just need someone to talk to. Maybe someone can help me to answer questions.

My husband who was diagnosed with bipolar II and is only on Paxil. He won't take anything else. He was doing great on lithium but one day refused to take it because he said it doesn't work anymore. He sees a physicians assistant but she only writes prescriptions. She does nothing to explore these problems. He sees a counselor but he has only gotten worse. His previous psychiatrist was great. My husband couldn't manipulate him. He told him straight forward him, but unfortunately he retired.

Has anyone experienced a spouse created email accounts to sign up on dating websites. He then swears someone else done it but no one uses his computer. He chatted with a woman for months and now denies he done anything wrong. He told her he loved her called her "baby" . It hurt so bad when I found the emails and seen how sweet he talked to her. It's was how he use to talk to me. I've been married to him for 18 yrs and he is getting worse. Constantly tells me he wants a divorce but never leaves. Tells me he is no longer in love with me and blames me when things go bad. He says things and almost smiles when he hurts me.


There is no doubt that he is doing it but the question is...is it true when he says he doesn't remember or denies doing it?

Thank you for your reply red lightening. I want to go to marriage counseling but he doesn't because he says he didn't do it. It's not like someone broke in and done it. Yes he even tried that excuse. I had to point out that whe would someone break in and do this. And how would they know his password.

I still would like to hear from others if people with bipolar doesn't remember doing stuff like this.

Thank you

Thank you CamanoGirl

I appreciate the info. This does help me. I am so broken hearted. He is the love of my life. I just want him to be faithful and to stop hurting me. My heart feels like I will never recover.