What is it like to have controlled bp symptoms - in a relationship?

I traveled for work 2 weeks ago and I'm about 6 weeks away from taking certification tests for work.  The stress of these 2 things, plus missing sleep to study has me experiencing bp symptoms again (previously in remission).  I'm on trazadone as needed for sleep and alprazolam as needed for anxiety. 

 

Yesterday morning I woke up agitated and in a mild mixed "episode".  In quite because I have ultraradian cycles.  Within an hour I had crashed and was in bed, depressed. 

My fiance's a pretty smart man.  :)  He took us out shopping for the day.  He hates shopping, especially window shopping, and ESPECIALLY on a busy Saturday!!  But he stuck it out for 7 hours and we had an enjoyable day.  I slept well and woke up better today. 

I wasn't feeling perfectly stable today.  I took a hot bath in the middle of the day, and seeing that I needed time alon, my fiance took my son snow tubing.  (Smart man!)  He's not clairvoyant - I keep lists of things to do and he could see my list today was geard towards managing anxiety.  Since I got time to relax and get my state of mind better, now I'm cleaning and HE will be happier coming home too.

Relationships with someone with bipolar disorder can be good and rather normal.  By working together, the partners can arrange normal activities to improve stability.

Rather than feel sorry for me, cuddle, pamper me or otherwise enable my depression to linger, he took action that he knows will stop depressive symptoms.  Rather than expressing his frustration with unfinished chores (which would cause me to panic and get nothing done), he went off to do something fun.  Without the pressure and added stress I can get things done.  Now he is happy too.  :)