Hi, Wotan, I still believe you do not have any form of BP, not even mild mania. You have an underlying situation that is causing your problems, it isn't just random. Anxiety isn't mania, I understand the anger bit, but if you read the actual symptoms of even hypomania you will realize you're not even close. Be happy about that! You, IMO do not need a stabilizer, they are too strong, would more than likely make you a zombie. The usual treatment for anxiety such as yours is an antidepressant and xanax a couple three times a day, or ativan, benzos in general. Sometimes SSRIs calm anxiety as well as depression, too, but everyone is different. Remeron I think would be a great benefit to you, it's an antidepressant/antianxiety agent all in one. Neurontin can be of value for anxiety, as can Geodon, but is of no use for true BP disorder, I or II.
Best to let a real pdoc evaluate and diagnose you accurately. Let us know what he says!