BP Anger

Hi Suazo,

There is hope. Sometimes we may lose control. We all have these weak moments when we feel down or we may lose control, etc. However, it is something that you can control.

Dealing with anger is hard. When you feel the anger or this mood approaching, you need to do something to calm down. You have to know what to do in the moment, and what to do in the long run to make sure you can control it.

Meditation and deep breathing helps to calm you down when you're upset or angry. Breathing tends to slow things down in your mind and you feel a sense of calm. You can inhale through your nose and exhale through your mount (I do it this way), or you can do it vice versa.

Keep a journal. When you feel angry, start writing how you're feeling. When you write your thoughts and feelings, it tends to help you feel better.

You can even go for a walk outdoors to 'cool off', put on some o your favorite music and listen to it or even dance, watch a movie, call a friend and talk to them.

I would suggest you create a list of thing to do when you get angry. Include what you would like to do to help calm you. When you feel the anger approaching, chose something from your list and do it. As I mentioned in your previous post, you can even come here as post. We are always here for

I hope this helps.

UA

I understand what you are talking about. I too get angry and sometimes its something stupid that I think sets me off. I try to calm down before I loose control but it doesn't always work I also don't feel like my meds work.

I personally feels material destruction is still not the worst. me too, breaks things and smash things all the times. But I've damaged much worst things that can't be replaced or repaired. I have destroyed my family relationships. my parents and siblings are completely out of my life due to my abuse on them. my children are too young to make a choice I guessed. my husband is walking zombie after 10 years with me. I can smash him in his face and he don't react, just turn around and walk away claiming that's the only way he can stay sane with me.
he advised me to control likewise , but why should i? i just need to be true to my own feelings and moods. I secretly believe my children will abandon me when they are old enough, just like the way I walked out of my own family..I have nothing intact in my life other my 15 years old dog. She's the one and only who can truly accept me and have never turn her back on me , not even once.

Yes, I agree. I push people away too. I do not let anybody get close. I keep everyone at arms length. I also spew so many vile things from my mouth that I truly don't mean. I've lost an amazing job, a marriage and currently driving my current girlfriend into therapy .. she loves me but yet she doesn't know how to handle me. This disorder is so cruel to me and everyone who is in my life. I hate it

Thank you :)