Repeated pattern bipolar eposoide

Her sister is in alkmaar south africa and will no talk to her if she is unwell. Her other friend is in Sumerset west south africa. She is in wellington in nz. Her friend c talks to her by whatsup. Hence her anger when she thought I blocked it. My doctor told me not to feed the monster. To communicate one a day...then once every two days etc. Today I got a list of items she wants.

Her sister is not aware of situation. Not a good idea to tell her sister. I also know her location to within 300m. I suspect she is in a particular house.

Her friend c is in regular contact with me. You are correct if I do not respond she gets angry. I never thought if me as her life line. You are correct she needs to ensure I am contactable

Hope you get some more responses on work soon Africa99.

Yes, grief is natural especially when a relationship is not going good for someone we deeply care about. However, some relationships can be toxic for us, so we sometimes need to make choices on what is best for us.
I am glad your partner has you, and you are there for her despite how she may treat you. But you must remember that this can affect your health as well. Therefore, you need to ensure you take care of yourself too.

UA

I am still waiting to her about two jobs. One where hiring manager is ringing me back. The other is a contact role in Melbourne australia..4 hours away on the jet. I former colleague who's a GM send me a link to a job in his company. I applied.

I am learning coping skills all of the time. My doctor has arranged a consellor. My estranged partner is pushing out separation....as per her normal pattern...hate you.. not sure..but i need you and then reconcillation. She is now asking for help daily. The house build and her broken car and my redundancy has created this mess. But as part of our bipolar plan. Separate assets..put her assets in a trust. Her asset can not be sold in episode. Protects me as my assets will be mine. An we get rid of legal costs.... also give her some freedom. But I wish I could go into stasis for next 8 weeks.

My first session is two weeks away. Expensive 30% of my weekly income until I get work. I need to get work anand I never realised how hard it was.

You said:

"my estranged is still very stressed and let's out little burps of anger. You have working car...you have free accommodation you have your gsf.. I want to yell back and you could have it too. But I know that until her mind settles and she calms that small wins are all I can have."

I know of which you speak. I am trying to help a female now who is also bipolar, as your ex-girlfriend is, and as I am.

Except, I am a bipolar on medicine--Lithium to calm down the mania and Mirtazapine anti-depressant--to lift the depression.

She is a bipolar who is not on medicine, and like your ex-girlfriend, she is all over the place. Sometimes she is talking like at about 100 miles an hour. That's when she's out cigarettes, not having any or taking any medicine for bipolar, and probably out of street drugs.

Her next, first, appointment at a medical clinic, is Nov. 15. We are trying to get her on some kind of bipolar medicine, and off any street drugs she may be taking.

She has been saying for 6 months she's going to get her driver's license, but it's just dawned on me that she might have criminal record of some sort which will show up if she tries to get a driver's license, and she knows she won't get it.

Because someone told me her boyfriend had a felony and that's why they didn't apply for govt. housing.

But he got a job two weeks ago, I think he said it paid $1,500 a month. So that is very good.

But I know what you're going through trying to work with a bipolar. From being one, and from trying to help one, tough. Rewarding at times, but tough.

But what else are you going to do. Leave them stranded like plenty of people have left us? No way.

You said, "Been alone and in the country is hard. I see people once or twice a week."

As someone who cannot drive, I often go for long spells without seeing any body. So, I know what that's about, also.

You say, "But I have my faith and the house to finish."

As poet Robert Frost put it,

On Stopping in the Woods on a Snowy Evening

"My horse must find it ****,
to stop without a farmhouse near.

"The woods are lovely, dark and deep,
"but I have promises to keep,

"And miles to go before I sleep.
"And miles to go before I sleep."

and

"Two paths diverged in a yellow wood.

"And I, I took the one less traveled by.

"And that has made all the difference."

Hope things get better for you Africa! Know that we are here for you.
On the bright side, your first counselling session is now 1 week away. Looking forward to hearing how it goes for you.

UA

Good Luck with the interview! Hope it goes well.

UA

Thinking about yourself, and doing what is best for you does not make you bad at all. You need to take care of yourself. I am glad to hear that you are putting yourself first, and moving forward.

It will take time for you to get adjusted, but it is a process. Hang in there and continue moving forward!

UA

One of my estranged wife's supporters rang. She is worried that z is mentally unwell and has kidney issues and asked me about issues where my estranged had told people i was threatening her. They know me and thought it was untrue. The wife supporter is a social worker and asked how I thought the estranged wife would react to a compulsory assessment and treatment. Through her colleagues she has access to her medical records and people to treat her..

I said that past reactions had not been good...she knows how to apear well for assessment period bUT passed out. But now I know she is unwell. I am not crazy. My estranged will ask me to get her out of hospital. It will be time for tough love.

I also have a phone to give my estranged to replace her damaged one.

Thanks I had my first session on Monday. I waited a while. The counsellor understood a little about bipolar and I gave him the context and our history. I also told him I list my dad when I was 7. I was sent to bed early for been naughty, and never saw my dad again. Each time was estranged gas left to now was after an arguement. And he lOSS reenforces the child hood hurt.. This time there was no argument. But the hurt is still there.

I am still waiting for the interview time for Australia... but I have a meeting on Monday afternoon about a job in wellington.

I am finishing the house that my estranged and I relocated. Hard as I would like her input. But her phone us broken and one of her support people said she is worried about zelda and was going to go to mental health. But who knows.

I just have to pray.

NBN Co changed their mind so I missed out as they hired locally. That's the downer but my chat with local job went well and they have two jobs and they had not found any suitable candidates. They are convinced I can do the job. So I am hopeful.