Today is the day

today is the day that my husband leaves me

im staying at my parents house for now dont want to live in a house alone

You say,

"im staying at my parents house for now dont want to live in a house alone"

I remember after I had a mental breakdown, I didn't want to live by myself, either.

I connected living by myself with a nervous breakdown. I did a number of nights, but I didn't really want to.

After my wife passed away from a long illness, I wasn't sure I could live by myself, starting the night of her funeral.

Being alone reminded me of having the nervous breakdown when I was alone in my apartment many years earlier.

That first night went OK, and I realized, the difference was, I was now on bipolar medicine, Lithium for my mania and Mirtazapine for my depression.

It's been 8 years now, and I'm still doing OK.

It's probably going to take awhile. Sorry to hear about this, but it does sound like he was treating you pretty bad. My wife was, also, but I couldn't break away from it.

That's good.

I've had situations where I did not have a support system. After my wife died 8 years ago, it was me by myself. No second opinions. No ideas from anybody else.

That's why I got on this website. I had no support. So you can put "good support system" in your "good luck" column. Not everybody has that.

Most of the people writing in here have no support system. They're relying on a bunch of strangers.

Do you have any "strategy," as my psychiatrist would say, to get back up on your feet?

im doing great im happily separated

Good to hear that Chibijen.

Know that we are here for you.

UA

Well, that's one way to deal with the situation.

Taking the bull by the horns.

As I've said to you before, some people are luckier than others.

Now that I'm away from my emotionally and psychologically abusive wife by 8 years, I'm crawling back to a better life and a better view of myself.

All my helpers have been better than my wife at treating me, but this latest one is really a treasure, and I'm thinking, "I'm not such a bad person after all."

It's like a light switch has been turned on, and before it was turned off, just a slight difference, but oh so important.

I'm getting helped, and I'm getting to help people. Not enough room to describe it all here, but you'll just have to take my word for this one.

Of course, you're already living that improved life, yourself, so I don't have to explain it to you, and I understand your situation without a full account. If you're living it, you know.

Now we're both away from the situations we thought we couldn't live without.

Sometimes I try to put it into the connotation of "good luck" and "bad luck."

It helps satisfy my mind of, it was not necessarily all my fault, it was just bad luck. Then I try to remember some of the good things that have happened to me, to try and balance out my thinking, and remembering that I have had some good luck.

We know we're going to heaven, because we've already been through hell. Or, as the song says, "For we (I) have been hurt, hurt deep inside," which of course is on youtube.com., except I couldn’t find it.

Also in your case, it’s the song (Gimmie Some Lovin’):

“So glad you made it
So glad you made it
You gotta
Gimme some lovin'
Gimme some lovin'
Gimme some lovin' everyday"


It’s a celebration for someone who got through a tough time. It’s on youtube.com, I hope you’ll listen to it.