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Posted 12/4/2006 8:48 PM (GMT 0)
I have this terrible habit.
I get interested in something and I really want to do it, and I tell people I'll do stuff and then after a while I just don't do anything.
I'll join clubs, societies, form groups, and I really do want to do them, and work at it, but I just can't get myself motivated after a while.

Is this a BP thing? Or is it just me being useless?

I ask because I'd rather like to respond to the forum admin thing, but I'm worried that a few months down the line I'll just give up.

How do I stop this kind of thing?

Nicola
Posted 12/4/2006 9:31 PM (GMT 0)
Hi DJ

We all need new challenges. If we get involved in something that becomes monotonous, we grow bored of it. That is typical of anybody. I suggest you have not found your niche yet. Try golf, no two rounds are the same.

I tried a number of clubs. The only ones I excelled at involved alcohol, so I let my membership lapse in those endeavors.

I am a member of one club. Needs a little background. When I was in college, there was a kid that would always repeat, "Society sucks, man!" So some friends and I formed the Society Sucks Society. Because a society is a group of two or more members, each Society Sucks Society Chapter may only have one member. We do have conventions every once in a while down at the diner when we add countless volumes to our by-laws. We recently reprimanded a member for having a bowling party and more than one Society Sucks Society member showed up.

We have great fun with it. You too can join. Our rules for joining are to just say you're a member and then recruit two more members which you can then have no further contact with due to our by-laws.

I know this sounds very stupid, but you have to find your fun in life. It won't come looking for you.

Cap
Posted 12/4/2006 9:34 PM (GMT 0)
It's not that I'm bored with the things though; I formed a study group on a Religious book I'm reading... and I've just not been able to go back to it and do anything.
It's the old 'can't do it' depression thing I think.
I just can't get myself to do things, even things I like!
I was really excited about the study group, and I've not done anything with it.
I just can't stick at things at all!
Posted 12/5/2006 3:17 AM (GMT 0)
I do the same thing.  I volunteered at my child's school, but after a couple of months I couldn't do it anymore, so I backed out of it.  I stopped going to the gym and wasted a membership.  I can't commmit to anything. You're not the only one.  I think it's a hypomanic thing for me. I feel good at the time, then the normal or depressed me hits.  Sometimes I'll even apply for jobs and think I'm going to get back into the workforce.  Yeah, right!
Posted 12/5/2006 2:57 PM (GMT 0)
You know, part of this is being human and part of this is lacking the commitment to change anything about your life. I can be as you describe, but I choose not to be anymore.

I went through a couple of years of what proved to be pretty intense and rapid therapy with a great gal. I learned life skills, although I didn't see it that way at the time and I only say it that way now for lack of a better phrase. Only I can change my life. Only I can make things better for myself. A quitter never wins and a winner never quits.

I have a family and what is called a full time job (not by hours, by production), and I am going back to school in January to get more education (I have actually just taken a quarter off, I have been at it a while). Even though I am not just wild about my choice of career, not in my head, but in my heart I know it is right. I know this is the right course for me to take. I will finish my Master's and hope to be starting my PhD in a little more than year from now. I know that I am NOT a quitter and I know that I want to change my life, so stick to this, I will.

I don't think it is boredom, just a lack of commitment to any sort of change.
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