olivia,
my belief system dictates that there are no such things as accidents and that everything happens for a reason. we might never know the outcome of the "accident" or the "reason" for an event. but, somehow, it is orchistrated. we have full free will in all of this, of course. we are, i believe, the architects of our lives.
SO WHAT'S YOUR PROBLEM, WOMAN? accept that you are beautiful and wonderful and human, with human failings and idiosyncracies. an illness, no matter hoe severe, is only an illness. only you can decide to make it define your "being."
you will make it through this dark passage. of this i am certain. and you will, as always, make it with grace.
warren