Sorry I've been "absent" lately...

Have been off to NY and NC to see my kids and grandbaby. Came home late Sunday night, only to have a state trooper pick me up at the airport so I could drive my husband home, he was so sick. Took him to the ER and he has been in intensive care since. He had a "raging" (one of those darned medical terms!) case of pneumonia and kidneys were on the verge of shutting down, he was so dehydrated. To think, I trusted him to take care of the dogs, and he couldn't even take care of himself! He is doing much better, thanks to IV fluids and antibiotics, but they plan to keep him in ICU til at least the end of the week. Oxygen sats are still low, even with 100% oxygen going in. I just had to come home early tonight, I was so worn out. Anyway... that's how my life seems to go! Always an adventure just around the corner!

Hugs to all the breast friends...
BEV

Finally, we're doing a bit better here. Out of ICU, anyway. He now has congestive heart failure, but they are managing it. I took a much needed break and let some trusted friends sit with him while I went to the store, got some laundry done, and checked on things here in cyberspace.

Love and hugs...
BEV

Hi Bev and the other ladies,

Bev you seem like a smart and loving woman. Your husband is very lucky. As you can see I'm a new member. I posted last week about my wife's biopsy. Well our worst fears are now reality. My wife 41 has breast cancer. We found out yesterday at 6pm. I know I have to stay strong for her but I am a broken man. I've been crying like a baby for the last hour, can't sleep. Guess what? She's sleeping. It's just like her to be strong. However I can see she's scared. I sure mostly for the kids. The only good thing is she caught it early [no lump] Now she has to go through the cat scan, mri, gene testing to see if it's anywhere else. I know this sounds selfish but I can't believe this is happening to her. She's beautiful, kind, giving. She takes her vitamins, works out, eats fruits and vegetables. She participates in all her kids stuff. Positive thinker! I don't get it. I'm sure all you women out there are just as wonderful. I hope it works out. I'm so scared.

 

Dear Worryhubby. I post here and some other forums; the support you get is beyond priceless... This is early, there is hope, there is a tomorrow. My Husband, bless him, gave me my space, and kept me close; he participated in my discussions, my what if's, my fears. Start and keep a dialogue, take your cues from her. My sons are in their late 20's and early 30's and live far from home; they were terrified; a lot of support went to them. Go to her appointments with her, listen and help her remember what is said. Find the best care you can and keep looking forward.
You may think she's not afraid, but I know I was..not of the cancer, but for my husband, my kids and for my self image, of how my husband was going to see me...he told me all the time that he didn't marry my breasts, but it was still a difficult time..reassurance is a good thing.
I think the early stages of this are the worst, primarily because of the unknown and lack of knowledge; but we have gotten better; we just changed oncologists because I didn't care for the one I had and I'm feeling a lot more comfortable; my point here, is that you do still have some control. Stay with us!
Janice

Hi Bev,

Wanted to know how your husband is doing. I hope much better.

Blessings,

Candy

does anyone in this thread have experience of use of a human hair wig?
thanks so much.

oh.. just cos i've found somewhere that 'ethically sources' theirs.. still not too sure what that means though!

I wear an ethically sourced human hair wig. Would be happy to discuss as I am very pleased with it.
Robert

It took a long while for me to find ethically sourced hair, but eventually I was lead to Bloomsbury Wigs. They have a London salon in Northington Street (near Chancery Lane station).
I know that the hair is ethically sourced as the company have their own 'hair harvest' procedure whereby the wigs that they make are made solely from hair donated by those willing to sell their hair to the company for a personal profit.
I found the website - www.hairharvest.co.uk and went from there.
Robert

My hair piece is undetectable. It is natural and moves easily, while my original hair line is still showing. It was applied using a thin layer of polyurethane which acted as a base for the human hair strands to be individually knotted onto.
What type of alopecia are you experiencing?
Robert

I felt the same, however I made sure I did as much research as I could before purchasing my piece. Visit www.onlinewigstore.co.uk to get a rough image of the range of pieces you can buy.
Robert