Lesion found on mammogram

I found a lump in my right breast and noticed an indention, I had recently lost weight and thought maybe it was related to that. I thought on it for a few days & figured maybe I should get a mammogram. So I scheduled one and they requested a doctors name to send the results. I haven't been to the doctor in 4 years when my son was born so I chose my mothers nurse practitoner. I went in for the mammogram and told the tech I found the lump & showed it to her. She got on the phone saying she needed orders for a diagnostic mammogram. She took at least 15 images mostly on my right breast, left the room, and when she came back she said they won't be doing an ultrasound but to be sure to see the doctor for my results. I went to the doctors office and they said they'd see me at 3:00 so I came in at 2:20 and they didn't call me back until 3:00, then I waited in the room 20 minutes. I could hear people leaving saying "see you tomorrow" and I thought wow saving me for last. The practitioner came in with a grim look on her face, felt the lump, and said "the radiologist called and said it looks like cancer we need a biopsy asap. She said there's a lesion and it doesn't look good. She showed me the mammogram and there where big white areas that look like starbursts and what looked like to me a big round barely visible line from top to bottom I describe looking like a capsule. She scheduled me for a biopsy this Tuesday, told me to be looking for an oncologist, get the fmla papers ready because I'm gonna be busy for awhile, and I'm looking at a masectomy! Then says you are going to have a busy year. So I'm numb, I'm only 36 have a 4 year old, 10 years into my career...now what. Can a radiologist be that convincing that the practitioner would have me looking for an oncologist before I get a biopsy and to mention a masectomy, oncologist, and fmla papers.

This all really is awful isn't it.  I am 43 and have a 9 yr daughter and 11 yr son.....I just had a biopsy done.  It's not too bad...it's totally bearable so don't worry too much about that.  I am waiting myself for results today or tomorrow.  I am 50/50 and know that I will be freaking out.  As with all mothers, our family needs us and we do so many things that we don't have time to deal with these things....but we must....we must take care of ourselves, somehow we must put ourself first.  I am really thinking of you and your predicatment.  What state do you live in.  That is awful how they gave you the news like that.......I guess they are being honest....there is not much customer service in the medical field these days......they don't realize the anxiety, stress of waiting for appts, waiting for results, waiting for the doctor to talk to you, EVERYTHING!  I know it's business as usual for everyone in the medical field, but they really do need to know.  On the other hand, no one has really given me any sort of information like they gave you...I don't know if that is good or bad...I feel like they are hiding something, not wanting to scare me, but in the meantime, I am scared, and worried, and stressed, and trying to carry on with day to day.  Hang in there.  It does help to surf the internet for websites and get all the information to arm yourself.  I freak out and then when I go on the internet, it calms me a little and arms with so much information.  I also do have a breast specialist/surgeon in the back of my mind, just in case my results are cancer......don't know when they can get me in, but I do have some names and are ready to go and battle this.  God bless you for dealing with this.  You are not alone, we are all in the same boat some way, some how on this website....let us know how you are doing in the future.