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Posted 7/18/2014 1:33 AM (GMT 0)
Hello,

My name is Pat and I have been a member of this forum for almost two years. I have prostate cancer (see my signature below).

5 months ago my wife decided to cut out sugar from her diet and she has lost 30 lbs since then. As she lost the weight, she noticed a lump in her breast. The doctor looked at it and found a second one as well. Biopsy was yesterday and the doctor called today with the news - my wife has Invasive Ductile Carcinoma.

This is tough, we have been dealing with my cancer and now this. It easier (in my limited experience) to be the one with cancer than the spouse - I don't like her being sick.

Surgeon calling tomorrow to set appointment for discussion.

Thanks for your support,

Pat
Posted 7/18/2014 5:18 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Pat,

Sorry to hear about your wife and your battle with cancer. I was 48 when diagnosed with DCIS one side and LCIS on the other and I also have a mix of cells???? Considering what it could have been I was lucky but I still live with the fear waiting for the shoe to drop. What helped me the most was I found a great group that meets once a month and I learned so much. That was in 2008 and I still go to group and we are all so very close. Some groups are very clinical but our group is a great mix of serious and laughter. We talk cry and most of all help the new people manage when they start down their road. Your wife is lucky that you are supportive so right there she is ahead of the game. But there will be things you can't help her with and she might benefit from a group that understands because collectively they have been through it all. From what you say she has IDC and depending on the stage she might not even need chemo. They are using chemo less now. I wish you luck and will say a prayer : )
Posted 7/19/2014 2:40 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Pat,

Welcome to this side of the train! I understand, albeit only somewhat, how you feel in that when I was dx'd, I could clearly see the stress on my Hubby because I knew he wanted to be able to fix me or know I could be fixed, and so we each had our own personal traumas going on.

Did she find out what stage? If she's E/P positive or negative? Biopsy? Etc.?

These are all big factors.

I know at first, as soon as we hear those words, our world shuts down and everything feels like it's crashing in all at once.

You have your plate full, I can see. You're to be commended for being so compassionate about your wife's situation in the wake of your own struggles. What a loving couple!

Update us as she gets new info and we'll have more info to share along the journey as well!









M.
Posted 7/19/2014 4:48 PM (GMT 0)
Merrida,

Thanks for the response and support. So far the Dr has just said its IDC and the tumor is 2.4cm. Nothing about staging, or the other items you mentioned. Is that something they would know just from the biopsy or is that something they learn after surgery? We feel like pro's when it comes to prostate cancer, but this is all new to us. Any help is greatly appreciated.


Thanks again,

Pat
Posted 7/19/2014 7:15 PM (GMT 0)
Hi!

So glad you are holding up well and have each other to lean on. From my experience they stage you after you're biopsy and then it could change after the surgery. If you look on your biopsy report you should find some reference to the stage. The fact that it is invasive I would guess stage 2 but after the surgery they will test the tissue and nodes. Again they are doing much more with a lot less harsh drugs treatment. You should ask all these questions, write them down so you have a list because when you are with the doctor you tend to get distracted by what he is saying and forget to ask your questions. Ask how many nodes (if any) will they remove and test. They will prob take the central node at least. Ask the doctor to explain it to you. Not understanding causes needless fear and frustration. This is also where group comes in handy because they were my rock just on the amount of knowledge and experience.
Sending positive thoughts….
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