HealingWell
Search Close Search
☰

Mom is temporarily in a nursing home and I am having pre-cancer surgery

Support Forums
>
Breast Cancer
✚ New Topic ✚ Reply
❬ ❬ Previous Thread |Next Thread ❭ ❭
Posted 2/8/2006 12:56 AM (GMT 0)
Hello all,

I am also sorry that I have been gone for so long. My sweet mom fell down at the bottom of the stairs, thankfully not at the top, and had a mild heart attack. She broke her foot and is is re-hab. I have been up there with dad and will be spending a lot of time up there. Her memory comes and goes but she cries a lot and it breaks my heart. I am going back and forth between here seeing my doctors and Chicago.

My lesion is most likely cancer and I will have laser sugery on March 7th. It is the same doctor that did my hysterectomy for cervical cancer. It is at the top of the vagina. She didn't do a biopsy because she said it would "hurt like hell" because I don't have a cervix. That's why it didn't hurt the first time. Since she had no intention of leaving it there wilh my history, we will just take it out. I love her to pieces. And you all. Di

Posted 2/8/2006 1:01 AM (GMT 0)
Di:

It is so hard when the parents are not well and need us. Just like we needed them so many years before. Actually I still need my Mom to this day. I understand about your broken heart. It hurts so much. I will have her in my prayers.

You will be in my prayers too. Sounds like your doc has lots of compassion. March 7th is my 36th wedding anniversary but my thoughts will be with you. Please let us know how you are doing and keep us updated about your Mother and your Dad.

Hugs,

Candy
Posted 2/8/2006 1:26 AM (GMT 0)
{{{Di}}}

Talk about a full plate!  I'm sure your mom is getting good care but how your heart must be breaking as her memory comes and goes.  I'm sure those hugs of yours are a comfort to her and your dad. 

Your doctor sounds like a winner.  I'm with her -- take it out!  So here are some hugs for you, too.

I'll be praying for you and your family, Di.  Please get some rest in this busy time of your life. 

Love,

Becky

Posted 2/8/2006 1:35 AM (GMT 0)
Di,

It is so hard to see our parents NEEDING us.  My thoughts and prayers are with you during this tough time.

Also, praying for your health and sending you hugs.  Sure hope that you feel them. ((((((HUGS)))))))

^j^  ^j^

Deb

Posted 2/8/2006 1:57 AM (GMT 0)

Hello, Dear Di !!

I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. And about your lesion, too. It sounds like the laser removal won't be too invasive, though. My thoughts are with you! Your surgery is the day before my mother's birthday (another proud BC survivor). She'll be 79. My dad turns 80 on March 23. They're still living independently, but I'm not sure how much longer they'll be able to do that. They're in good mental health, thankfully, although both are having physical problems, and they're living in a big old Victorian house with their bedroom upstairs, and the laundry room in the basement. My sister and I are trying to talk them into moving into a ranch-style house closer to us, but they are resisting.

I think of you often! I hope we can have another get-together soon. Maybe you all can come to Columbus in the spring to help me celebrate my graduation, LOL! My DH is already trying to figure out how many kegs to get!

Love, Peg

Posted 2/8/2006 2:13 AM (GMT 0)

Di,

I'm so sorry for all that you are going through. Prayers going out for you & your mother. I hope the procedure is as easy as possible and you have a quick recovery.

Hugs,

Julie

Posted 2/8/2006 2:36 AM (GMT 0)
Oh Di, I feel for you with all this on your plate. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and your parents, too. We are having issues with my mother, too, who remains belligerent and in denial. I would give anything to have her under supervised care, but so far she is still in her apartment alone and her mind is not what it should be for her to be there. At least you can rest easy knowing your mom is safely cared for. Please take care of yourself. Hugs and love, MK
Posted 2/8/2006 3:19 AM (GMT 0)
((((((((Di))))))))

 

I'm praying that your surgery goes smoothly and you have minimal discomfort.  I'm glad you sound good.  You are one strong lady, even if you don't feel like it.

 

I'm really thinking about you.  I'm looking at a picture right now, It's of **** Van Dyke.......

Posted 2/8/2006 3:46 AM (GMT 0)

Di: I am so sorry to hear your news. Your plate if very full right now. As someone said, please take time for yourself. If you don't, you won't be much help to your parents or be able to have a quick recovery. Your dr sounds fantastic.

I am thankful that your mom didn't break her hip. I worked in admin in several nursing homes, and most of the residents were there because of broken hips. It is difficult for them to realize that they can't do everything that they use to do. I have an uncle that has alzheimers. He and my aunt (both 80) live in St. Louis. 2 weeks ago he walked out of the house w/ his briefcase. He told his grandson he was going to work. He then preceded to get in the car and drove off. As soon as everyone realized that he actually had gone, they notified the police. They found him 8 hrs later. He had drive over 80 miles and hadn't hurt himself or anyone else. Thank God.

You and your parents will be in my prayers. Do you have any siblings that can help?

Gentle hugs and prayers...Deb

Posted 2/8/2006 4:20 AM (GMT 0)
Well Ms Di, I can understand your concern for your mother. As Deb said, at least it wasn't her hip. Mitchell's mother broke both her hips and after the second one, she was never able to walk. I'm glad that your mom is progressing well.

As for you, I hope this is the end of your health problems for a long time to come. Your road has been pretty rocky, bumpy, and long. (I will always keep you special in my heart since we're both Scots and both had the gangrene. I still think we're the only two. LOL) I know the PCE will be on the move for Mar 7. I'll be headed to Mexico that day so Joyce will have to swing south for me. Cruella will bring lots of chocolate for all as she flutters her pink boa.

Above all, Di, know that you and our family are in my prayers. We do need a meet close to Texas.

Love You, Jo-Ann
Posted 2/8/2006 8:06 AM (GMT 0)
{{{Oh, Di}}} I am sorry to hear your Mom fell. I know how hard it is when you see a parent confused and hurt. It breaks my heart just thinking about it when my Dad was ill. I will be praying for your Mom, Dad and you. I'll be there on March 7th with you sweetie, holding your hand.

Love and hugs, Gail

Posted 2/8/2006 1:19 PM (GMT 0)
Di, PCE will be there with everyone. Pink feathers and lots of chocolate. Just warn your doctor. We do tend to stun the staff when we show up. In fact if you listen carefully that is the sound of the closet opening and the famous drum getting dragged out of the closet again. We will get our Ladies Only Marching Pink Feather Brigade together and take the place with our musical talents ( Do I hear a chuckle?) Does everyone still have their musical instruments? Count on us to be there for you. By the way I am half Scottish and of all the things I have had, gangrene is not one of them. Can I have half a member of the clan status? I will be picking everyone up on March 7th bright and early. Jo-Ann, of course, I will find you and you did not even need to promise chocolate but I must admit, with the chocolate, the ladies will save you the best seat. As you know we all bribe easily! On a serious note Di, I want you to know I know how hard it is trying to be there for your parent, and taking care of yourself. I am sending lots of prayers and remember mom is being cared for, you need to take care of you. Love and Hugs Joyce
Posted 2/8/2006 11:50 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Di,

I will be on the PCE with the rest of the ladies...Please know that I
love you and think of you often...I hope all goes well.

My love and hugs

Cathi
Posted 2/9/2006 1:18 AM (GMT 0)
Hi All, Thank you all for your prayers and good wishes. You are all so important to me. I don't let loose with too many people. Jo-Ann, sis, we share so many things. I hope you have an absolutely outrageously great time in Mexico. Where are you going? I think you can miss the PCE this time. I will be thinking of you though with lots of love. I am sorry that I forgot your clan to tell Joyce. It is written down somewhere. What was it? I am a McFarland, Joyce, but not as much as as half. I'm also Campbell and Robb. Candy, Enjoy your anniversary and congratulations. Please don't worry about me, my doctor is so great. gma, I'm sorry you are also in a similar situation. I didn't realize that. Peg, I know there is nothing you can do. I was told I couln't by an elder abuse counselor. Dad also fell in the street before Chritmas, He just told me., hit his head and layed there until he was found by paramedics driving by. Thanks for all prayers. They are needed and answered since Mom fell at the bottom of the stairs and not the top. Those angels I sent over there were watching her.
So glad your uncle was not hurt Deb.
Yes, we need another week end sometime soon. Maybe to celebrate with peg. Otherwise, I will have to get a keg for the occasion and drink it here all by myself. Love, Di
Posted 2/9/2006 12:13 PM (GMT 0)
Di, I am invited to a Campbell wedding this spring. Kilts and bagpipes and all. LOL I will give you a hint about mine.
Think apples. LOL Love and hugs Joyce
Posted 2/9/2006 2:14 PM (GMT 0)
Di, sorry for these latest troubles....sounds like the angels are watching over you for sure, as we will be too.

L&H,
Lori
Posted 2/10/2006 5:07 AM (GMT 0)
I hope your mom responds to therapy and care in the nursing home, Di. Hard to have fragile and ailing parents. Good luck with your surgery, but sure sorry you are apparently on the cancer merry go round again. It just never ends, does it? Hugs and love, dear friend, Lauri

Posted 2/11/2006 2:32 PM (GMT 0)
Hey Di and Joyce, I am of the clan Donnachaidh, a Druid clan from Ireland. (That's where the dark hair and blue eyes come from, called the "Black Irish".) The move to Scotland came about 1500 years ago. The name aligned the clan with "Duncan". There were two kings of that name but it is thought the leader was the King Duncan murdered by MacBeth. If you ever get to Scotland, you must see MacBeth's castle. Of course, it is haunted. Personally, they couldn't pay me to spend the night in it. In fact, they have a post card that says "two out of three ghosts prefer Cawdor Castle".

After the Battle of Bannockburn in 1314, Robert the Bruce was saved by members of the clan. That night, he said that the sons of Duncan would be now be known as his sons, Robertsons.

Is that a MacIntosh, Ms Joyce? There is nothing as interesting as a "Scots" wedding. I love the pipes and have a lot of recorded music, some thanks to my dear MK. Also, sadly, the pipes always seem to be crying to me when played at a funeral, especially that of a policeman. And, while it is now universal, Amazing Grace is Scots and played by the pipes to bring tears to your eyes. We should have a mini-meet in Edinburgh.

Love you, Jo-Ann
Posted 2/18/2006 1:08 AM (GMT 0)
So much great information. I've got to get my printer fixed. A meet in Edinburgh.Wow, IF I had any money, I'd be right there. Maybe someday. I certainly would like to. Enjoy your wedding Joyce. I'm jealous. Sorry this note is late. I have been sick in bed for a week. Love, Di
✚ New Topic ✚ Reply