And she has not a clue. Seems my DFIL didn't tell her. I almost told her before I realized. I got my DFIL on the phone and in encrypted language, he said he didn't tell her. I said I wouldn't tell her, that I would say I was getting an ovary checked and maybe removedand he said "ok". I had mentioned that I was grateful she called me and that my imagination had been going strong about her being catholic, and then had stopped when I realized she was clueless before getting him on the phone. I explained the remark by saying that some catholics believe in no reproductive surgeries, and she said "but not for your health, I'm not like that."
Went crazy for maybe a half hour before I broke down and called back. Asked to speak with him. He said it was nothing like what I was thinking, that he just thought I would want to tell her myself if I wanted her to know. He said to be at peace and that they weren't angry at all and I asked him to tell her.
They just aren't built like me I guess. My family has always been very open. I tell mom and she tells everyone else. Bob's family is probably private. Trouble is, no communication, no support, and thoughts run wild.