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Posted 7/31/2008 3:58 PM (GMT 0)
Ohhh now you all are going to love this topic! In just a little bit I will be officially putting the house up for sale and to this I am excited as well as anxious and terrified. To many memories in this house after 11 years of being here....my son grew up here.......I love this town.......and many more. But....I have to think about the positives right? New place means that maybe I will get the treatment that I so wish to happen and two......new friends as well as a new home.

Now on to the subject. How do you try and pack when your in so much pain? I have to at least try and get boxes packed to help hubby along this hard move. I have been sitting in a chair and going through paper after paper cleaning out drawers and stuff trying to get rid of things that we do not need as well as things that we do not want to carry with us. Hubby has been so overwhelmed at work that he leaves at 5:30am and doesn't come home until 8pm that night and I feel as though I have to help try and make this move as smooth as I possibly can, for his sake as well as mine.

So, how do I do this without killing my back????
Posted 7/31/2008 4:16 PM (GMT 0)
Dear Scarred,
I understand that moving can put more stress on a person. I too have chronic pain with failed back syndrome. Okay to much stuff to list. I can't tell you the right or wrong answer. When we moved I had to suck it up and ask for help. Like you, my husband works many hours. The last thing I do is ask for help. I like to do everything by myself. Sometimes you just can't do it alone. Even if you have to hire the boy down the street. Help Help Help is what you need. Try to suck it up and put faith in your judgment. I am sure with a few helping hands you will be able to start a new home..I hope you find the right answers. Be happy, I do know its hard living everyday in pain. Godspeed ...Kipper
Posted 7/31/2008 4:31 PM (GMT 0)
Scarred,
I'm with Okonner on this (Hi, Okonner, and welcome). You need to get help in one form or another. You know, having some movers come over and pack may not cost as much as you think, and may save your body BIG TIME. Especially if you can sort and organize papers and such, and instruct them, the movers are trained in how to pack things. Or you can just ask friends or a young teen who wants to earn some summer money. But there is no way to do this kind of physical work without causing yourself more pain - and possibly doing more damage.

And you've got the myelo tomorrow and you need to rest after that!

Take care of yourself!

PaLady
Posted 7/31/2008 5:15 PM (GMT 0)
Gonna get some help in packing and the house is officially up for sale, which is going to make my neighbors wonder LOL. Hoping it gets sold real fast and that this will steer us in the right direction. I have already incorporated the help of my neighbor, she is such a sweetie and has offered to help pack. Also hubby told me that his co-workers too are going to help, so I shouldn't have to lift a finger to help him.

The last thing I want to do is cause me more pain then what I am already in and the real estate lady was quite nice as far as what I should expect and such so that eased my mind as well. I do not think and neither does the Realtor that this place will be long on the market so that is encouraging to me. Seeing the "For Sale" sign in front of my house is so weird and I am feeling a little sad about it but I know that this is the right move for us and I have to have faith that we will be fine. And yes both of you are right I do need to rest especially since my Mylo is tomorrow and I will have to rest proceeding that.

So I have decided that I will rest and tell everyone else what to do while I recoop from the Mylo and allow my back the time it needs to heal. Hubby is going to work on some of the painting this weekend while I sit back and take it easy. I wanna thank you all for you support and I am hugging each of you gently.
Posted 8/1/2008 12:14 AM (GMT 0)
Hey Scarred - my house is on the market too. I just wanted to send good vibes that your house will sell quick. Hopefully you can send the same my way. We have a cell phone tower on the property behind my house and it makes it a lot harder to sell. We both have a 45 minute commute and really want to live closer to work.
Posted 8/1/2008 1:35 AM (GMT 0)

Scarred ~ so glad you are getting help with your move! We had a flood on May 30th and my hubby traveled through the whole two months until last week and I had to move everything and go to all the stores and pick out all the new stuff and while I have a wonderful new home it's been a killer two months! twice my back gave out and I fell to the floor trying to get the china cabinets unpacked and packed and wash all the dust off everything ! Just washing the crystal at the sink and then walking the 30 feet to put it in the cabinet was too much some days! I finally found a web site called Ihireamarine.com where I hired some marines to help me move! it was so wierd to sit and tell people what I needed done and I still did too much for the "new me" that can't do squat ! (can you tell that bugs me ??)

I know your house will sell fast and I love your positive outlook about new treatment and new friends !

Did you sleep last night ?

CPnewbie

Posted 8/1/2008 2:26 AM (GMT 0)
CP; I did not sleep well last night and I have been having problems keeping my pain in check. I think these last two days have taken its toll on me with the increased pain so I am now taking a vow of complete rest for the next week so that after the Mylo my back can heal up. Its funny (weird) how just little things can send us CP'ers into such horrid pain and be so debilitating to our bodies. I am not afraid to let hubby do everything, cause he knows what pain I am in and can see it in my eyes and on my face. In fact, this evening we were taking down the deer heads and a spasm of pain almost caused me to howl, but I held it back and hubby looked at my face and said "Sit your butt down and don't move!" I looked at him trying to give him that brave look and he says "Hunny your hurting, stop trying to help me. I can do this there is no need in you making it worse or causing some more damage in your back." So he made me go to bed :-( like I am a little kid! But you know I love him all the same, the may give me a bad time or say "You suck!" but I know he's only joking and that he does care about me. It's funny how he can make me smile with one little joke or smile and seems to understand how much pain I am in.

Fitzy; I too hope your house sells quickly and am sending good vibes for a quick sale and a smooth move. Too bad you have a cell tower behind your property, that really makes it more difficult to sell it. I know how you feel having to commute so far from home to work. Hubby drives 34 miles to work and back 5 to 6 days a week and it eats up 200 to 300 bucks a month easily in gas. Congrats on your newly acquired student standing yay!!!! I wish you the best of luck with your studies and hope that you sail through school with ease :-)

Anyway, the house is officially on the market and I do hope it sells fast. I'm a little anxious about this Mylo tomorrow but I too know that this is the only way they can see if there is something more going on inside that isn't showing up on any X-ray. I am confidant that things will work out for the best and as I listen to hubby in the living room painting the living room walls white I can only say thank god for understanding husbands that know when your just not at your best!

Take care....wishing you all a peaceful and Lessened Pain Sleep.

Your friend

Scarred
Posted 8/1/2008 3:21 AM (GMT 0)
Scarred ~ so sorry about the no sleep , not sure how you function but you are amazing ! Love your hubby! Hope all goes well tonight ! Dear heads ? Whose the hunter ? If you don't mind my asking are houses just as expensive when you live as where I live?

They are selling here even though the market is slow and I am glad although we are never moving as we have two kids in college now (as of 8/24) one at IU and one at RIT as well as a senior in HS and so next year we will have 3 college tuitions going at the same time so we will live here till the end !  LOL !!! Off to take a jaquizzi (sp) need some heat on this back !

I pray for you to sleep tonight my dear !!! Will chat when I dry off :-)

CPnewbie

Posted 8/1/2008 3:38 AM (GMT 0)
CP: awww thanks hun. I am just like you, trying to make it through one more day as I have for the last 8 years. Deer heads....hubby is the hunter, but I too am able to hunt (as long as I can sling the rifle out of the truck) as I have a disability tag for my deer and antelope. But the big shoulder mounts are hubby's, taken in KS years before he moved to WY.

The market is the same here, beginning to slow but massive sales are going on as people snag up the homes for rental properties and investments. As well you know that the stock market is gotten bad so the people that have the money to spend buy homes left and right to add to their investment portfolios. The homes here range anywhere from 50k for the most ugliest, needing work home clear up to 4Million for a real nice ranch with lots and lots of acres. Acreage is running around 2500 an acre in the town that we live in but closer to the city of Powell its ranging somewhere between 3000 to 5000. They at least halted building new homes in Powell because the market is flooded with homes that are being put on the market as people grow out of their old homes and decide that they need a new one.

I have seen a modest modular with 4 acres going for 160 grand over the last two months, but yet in the other direction I see homes going for 80 thou for a real nice home. In KS we can pick up a real nice three bedroom 1 3/4 home with CA....and CH....fireplace....basement......nice kitchen and separate dining room for around 75K. I guess it depends on where your at as to how much the homes are. In Jackson Hole the homes are running around 200k for a condo!! As the so called "Movie Stars" are moving into that area and pushing out the people that are in the higher thousands of dollar bracket families into Cody. Multi Millionaires are pushing those that have millions out and buying out the high dollar homes and they have no other place to go but Cody, so it is driving up the prices of homes in Cody.

A fire on North Fork has all of Cody and Powell in a fog of smoke yesterday and today along with those in Red Lodge from a fire there that is threatening homes. In 19988 I am sure you heard of the huge fire in Yellowstone and much of the smoke over in Cody reminded everyone of this huge fire that totally devastated the park. Last night when we went over to Walmart I saw for the first time a blood red sun as it was blotted out by the huge wildfire that is affecting that area. It was amazing and I wish I would have had my camera to take pictures to show you.

Anyway....I am off for my bath and will check back quickly before I head for bed :-)
Posted 8/1/2008 3:59 AM (GMT 0)
Okay Scarry: I can take a hint ! Iam coming up to Wyoming to help You out as soon as I get done feeding the pigs, washing the cars, cleaning out the garage to find my handtruck, finding my gloves, doing the wash, drying the wash, havie supper, taking a couple of power naps, grease my wheelchair, checking tire pressure on my wheelchair tires, rob the local bank for gas money, hide out after robbing the bank, finding my pain pills, calling everyone I know to let them know what Iam doing, emailing everyone to let them know what iam doing, Pack my thongs, and Disco Cd's,
Practice my Thunder Down Under Dance routine for our Beach Party, once again try and find where I left my pain pills, feed those dam pigs again, pick the corn, water the grass, water my plants, notify the post office, take a nap, change the oil in my car, try and get up after changing the oil, look again for my pain pills, gonna need another nap, have lunch, shower, practice yoga, watch just a couple of my favorite tv shows, take another nap those shows wear me out, find a map, look at the map, take a nap for looking at the map caused a headache. still gotta find those dam pain pills,
explain to my wife where I am going, listen to my wife laugh, take another nap, lost my things to do list and have to start over lets see: Pain pills, bank, , ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, Where the hell is Wyoming again ?? whats the fast way from New Jersey?? Mind if i bunk in with You guys for a couple of months for i'll be tired from the ride, plus gotta, wash the car, feed your pigs, clean your garage............. Luv Ya your friendly friend in pain and just plain nuts, tom
Posted 8/1/2008 4:04 AM (GMT 0)
Tom: I think you've given me alot more then I need help with LOL......how about this................I'' post tomorrow all about your plans...pain meds kickin in need sleep.... night hun
Posted 8/1/2008 4:36 AM (GMT 0)
You know Scarry: I'll do anything for You. Your movin & groovin pain friend. Tom Sleep well- pleasant dreams ( chasin that rabbit that is wearing a thong and humming a bee gees song )
Posted 8/1/2008 5:09 AM (GMT 0)
So much for sleep. grrrrr Hubby just got called at 11:00pm to go out and get a dang part for some farmer that is doing his harvest!!!!
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