For parents, do you ever feel guilty about having flare ups?

Magic as a Mom I live each day as if it was my last,it could be. I worked in med. long enough to know that sh## happens an if it's our time then it is and nothing changes that.

I've counted to billions in years, 10 at a time so I wouldn't snap out at them in pain. It still happened but it never went without me apologizing before the sun set.

I made sure no matter what I loved them beyond reason. They knew I lived every breath solely for them. In my heart I knew as I know now even as a normal parent a 100 years or more with them would never be enough. I was 41 when I lost my Mom and she was 78. When she died I knew she could not have ever lived long enough for me to say it was enough.

You have to give Yourself a break,your wasting precious minutes worrying that could be spent loving and sharing with them. Don't let guilt Rob you,your pain does enough of that.

Sorry,for mistakes had an eye Dr appt and still can't see from the dilatation.

Vickie

It may come with the years,letting go of the guilt. As your children grow and succeed and you feel proud of the fact that you had a hand in who they have become.

I have thru all of this strife done the best any parent could have. I met challenges head on and many times when we couldn't wade thru them we found detours around them.

I will be leaving behind me in this world 5 adults who know patience,compassion,empathy ,and above all understanding that each life is different and that's ok. We are not all meant to be and live as clones.

We all hope our children never take up a gun and walk into an elementary school and take 26 lives without remorse.

Mine couldn't ever without first being severely mentally ill,the compassion and empathy,and understanding that is a huge factor in who they are would not allow them to look into the faces of children and Rob them of life. The know 1st hand the value of a healthy life.

These are not traits that I have to feel guilty of instilling in each of them.

My youngest at 15 took a job after school this year just as the other 3 did that caught my worst years after CP. They enjoy having spending money ssd won't allow me to do. She remains an honor roll student and she was accepted to the art academy in lieu of the last 2years of high school.

I noticed she was getting mail from the SPCA and asked her what she got. She has them take $17 out of her measly spending money for spca. She can only work 25 hrs as she is 15 and that's 1/3 of what she makes. She is now the last of my children to join. The older ones have done it for years.

We don't even have an animal anymore. The donate their clothes,they take old towels an blankets to the the humane society. They work the homeless shelter and toys for tots at holidays. They also do normal teenage things and my now adult children still give many hours to the down trodden and less fortunate,they couldn't have been less fortunate themselves. There were days I didn't know what or how to get food.

They don't see their lives as being anything but normal. This is what I'm saying. Your children will learn good qualities to have but they won't think the situations that gave them to them were anything out of the norm.

Vickie