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Posted 5/26/2009 2:47 PM (GMT 0)

As much as I understand why you wanted to fill me in on your experience with Geodon...I am not going to say anything about it to my son...He is doing so much better already and I don't want to put those thoughts into his head...But I have done research on it and I do know what may or may not happen..I am watching him very carefully.

I know it's not likely to hit the right med on the first try, but it is possible.  I am hoping this wil last.  He is like a different person and I am enjoying it... We are going to a thera[ist every week so that will be a major part of this...

Thank YOu all for your support, I really need it right now.  I am going through alot just with having CP and Diabetes...My blood sugar levels are out of control and I think insulin is next...but i am dealing the best I can.

Me.

Posted 5/26/2009 6:31 PM (GMT 0)
Me,
I think that's a great choice - to not put thoughts into your son's mind about medication side effects if he's not having them! It really can matter if he's not thinking positively about it - he may just decide to stop taking it even if it is helping. So as long as it's helping and he's working with a therpist, that's great! At least you know what to watch for. And from having CP you know there's no med without a side effect, it's just a question of the trade off. And that we all react differently to each med.

Looks like it's time to focus on yourself!

PaLady
Posted 5/29/2009 4:03 PM (GMT 0)

 

 

Pa Lady,

I wish I could focus on me...but right now that's not possible.  I feel like I have been so very selfish in the past few years...I have so many health things going on that I fell like I should have seen this coming with my son..But for now, he's doing great... His medication is helping so much...I feel like I have my son back.  He hasn't cursed at me since he started meds. and he's actually doing things around the house... and wants to spend time with me. 

 

But, I can't put too much faith into this yet.  It's almost like I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop.  I just enjoy the moment.  But he is doing well.  He feels better, he acts better, and he is even taking better care of himself.

 

I won't mention the bad part of the meds.  He doesn't need to worry about that right now... So, thanks for your support..

 

Me.

Posted 5/29/2009 6:40 PM (GMT 0)
Me,
Maybe he'll never experience the negative side effects, so don't worry about them for now. As you said, enjoy the moment. But as for waiting for the other shoe to drop, well, that leaves you kind of in this anxious place which isn't going to help either one of you. If you can accept that he'll have ups and downs as a normal part of all of this, and that right now is a good time, relax a bit more and when a ittle downside wave comes take it in stride. He may get more upset over it if things don't stay as they are, but you're older and can help him see that it's a normal part of things, and you'll just talk with his doctor and see what the next step is. As everyone has said, it can be a challenging iilness, but your son will have to learn to take responsibility for it in his life. That will likekly mean he'll have some times when he'll refuse treatment, meds, etc. and will have to learn to decide which road he wants to take. You won't be able to control all that.

It's not your fault you didn't see this coming. Hormonal changes may have triggered its manifestation (not caused it, but brought it out in the open more). No one really knows what causes bipolar. There are a lot of theories out there, but it's strongly a biochemical brain imbalance, not a behavioral issue - although that's how it shows itself. Please stop feeling guilty that maybe you missed it. The more you take care of yourself, the better you'll be able to help him when he does need it.

For now, enjoy life a little!

PaLady
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