Hi Canuck 84,
Welcome yo Healing Well. I am so glad that you found us but I do hate to see someone young come long with the problems you are living with. I am so glad that you found us, as one thing we all understand very well and thats pain. So, you are not alone. We totally understand how pain affects your life in general.
None of us here at the forum are doctors. We only speak from our own personal experiences. One thing I suggest you do is get online and educated yourself about your condition. The more knowledge you can gain the better. Find good reputable web sites and look up things like annular disc tear, bulging/herniated disc, disc dessication and narrowing of the lumbar spine. Learning about your condition will help you understand why your body is doing what it is doing. Look at various options for treatment. Having knowledge will help you make better choices concerning your care.
You are so right, drs do not like to operate on young people. As far as the annular disc tear goes, it can go either way, some drs say leave it alone and let it attempt to heal on its own and at last resort sometimes they will do surgery. When a person has back surgery many times the disc above or below the surgery area can bulge or herniate out over time, mostly due to stress on the joint. Then a person could very well be looking at a second surgery. Many times when a person has narrowing in the spine they have pinched or compressed nerves. Sometimes this does not show up on an MRI Scan. So in essence what your drs told you about doing surgery now is very true.
Do you have any pain down the back either of your legs? Do you have any numbness, tingling or burning in either of your feet or with any of your toes? If you have a pinched nerve they can try to decompress the nerve by doing a discectomy, but that most likely will not relieve your back pain at all. Nerves are very complex and they can either heal on their own or not.
It sounds like you have seen pretty much the usual dr gambit. Are you or have you seen a pain mgt dr? If not asked you should ask your PCP to refer you to one. They are better trained to handle pain patients and usually have more info on different kinds of medications to try to help relieve the pain. No one likes to take medication period. But, for most of us that is the only way we can have some quality life.You are in a really tough spot because age is a big factor and thats exactly what the drs are looking at, your age, I really wish I had more info to give you . There are others that will read your post and hopefully they can come up with some good ideas for you.
Take care and let us know how you are doing.