Posted 9/25/2010 10:47 PM (GMT 0)
I think we all get very frsuterated from time to time. We see other people's situations and while "usually" we think "ohhh wow, I understand and feel for this person, I've been there before and know it had to have been a horrid ordeal for them as well", occasionally we speak out of character and say something to the accord of "that parts needs to shut up, and quite their whining, my situations was worse than their's, and I recovered just fine".
I think the biggest thing to try and remember is that we all respond to pain and stress differently. I'm not saying that its not ok to tell someone to "man up", but considering that when people tell of their ordeals, that it probably wasn't easy to talk about on a public forum in the first place, you might atleast think of a thoughtful way to give that "tough love".
Just my grainofsalt thought. Sorry I really haven't been on lately. Unfortunately, my girlfriend has temporarily inherited 3 children (moreso unfortunate due to the circumstances, social services took the 3 kids away from my girlfriend's sister, and NO ONE ELSE within the family has even lent a hand, so we took temporal custody of the 3 while trying to figure out what to do.) The father is almost a deadbeat himself, having volunteered for a second deployment to avoid the stress of taking care of 3 kids. He is now back in the states but is demobilizing and still in "deployed" status. After the kids got taken from his wife, the neglectful mother aka my girlfriend's sister, we sent a redcross message to his command. This incident happened about 2 weeks ago, and his command ONLY found out about the situation from the red cross message. He had planned to "wait it out" and come home in november instead of being a real father and requesting leave for his urgent situation. Its been 3 days since the red cross message was delivered and the only answer we have is that "the details are being worked out". Sorry for the rant. AHHHHHHHHHHHH :)