ready to blow a gasket!!!

This has been a rough several days, pain levels are high, spasms are bad, stomach issues, swelling from my knees down, which seems to only be getting worse, and my son has started thinking that he's the boss, which that alone is a huge stress factor. My brother came up to me earlier and started nagging me about cleaning the kitchen; I try to help out where I can, and its easiest for me to do something really low impact like cooking dinner, but to have someone come up and start talking to me like I was his servant, I'm very P/O'd right now.

Now, just to push me over the edge, his wife came up to me 5 minutes ago and did the same thing, never mind that they haven't done anything around the house in the last 3 weeks, and have relied solely on her mom (who moved in last month because her dad got layed off) and what few good hours I get, in order for any kind of work to get done around here. And never mind that they haven't lifted a finger for anyone else, they packed up all my stuff making it inaccessible, so they could move her parents in, and left me with little to no clothes, 1 set of bedding, and left my son on a foam couch to sleep on, that's so small, his feet hang off the end.

I calmly told them how bad I'm feeling today, and told them that I would be happy to help if things in my back started calming down, and they started going off about me putting her parents out, and that maybe I should find a new place to live, despite that, if I move, they have no TV (they decided to sell theirs in a yardsale last month since mine is in the house) they'd have no washer and dryer, no internet or wifi, and I'd be taking my whole cooking set too, which would leave them with almost no dishes or pots and pans since I dont let the kids play with my stuff and break it, or bend the pots by turning them into drums.

I don't know what they expect me to do, since I'm under doctor's restrictions not to lift more than 5 lbs more than 5 Xs per day, and all the bending stuff too, I can barely take care of my own son, let alone a full household, and I haven't been getting help in that dept either, they seem content to let their own kids get away with anything and then punish mine for the smallest things, I put my foot down about that one a few weeks ago you don't yell at my son... period.

Well, I dont know what I could do about the situation, other then just complain about it before I blow up on someone. I don't have anywhere else to go right now, I can't afford my own place, and cant even save up for a deposit, since I'm footing over half the bills and groceries, plus rent, and haven't had anything left of my tiny work comp checks to put in the bank, I don't even have the money for a birthday cake for my son for next week, figured I'd get a box of cake mix from dollar tree which will make like 6 cupcakes. Ugh, I'm just done with this, ready to get on with life, get back to work, and ready to find a new place to live.

Sorry for the long vent, figured you'd all understand better than anyone else.

People who DON"T suffer from CP don't have a clue do they? They don't understand that we want a normal life. I hate relying on other people to help me with chores and such. But, I don't have a choice. If I don't ask then nothing gets done. But my pride is always wounded when I ask because I hate to be a burden.

Hang in there! We are here for you!
Michele

Calmly tell them either back off or you want $100. back each month for the chores your doing. Cause your paying rent, not to be their slave and you deserve better... If it was me I'd say dishes equal $50. please pay up and I will gladly do them, thank you. Then sit down until they hand you money, and don't back down your paying too much to be there already and they are eating you out of your money! Say you need money for groceries and don't buy any, except food for you and your son and hide it,...There's gotta be something sneaky you can do and that might stop them from asking too much of you. it pains me that they are using you...hope things get better for you...

Matt-

Have you talked to anyone about food stamps? I don't know what state you are living in, but in Illinois you would be considered homeless and would qualify for this. I am in a similar situation, living with my mother. It works out for us both though as she needs help after going through colon cancer treatment.

Hope you can find a good solution soon.

Take care,
Bill