Hey gmom,
I am so sorry for your continued suffering. I have no clue of what you should do other than appeal once again to your PCP. I would think he SHOULD be familiar with your history and be more qualified to refer you. Although I question your previous pain management doctor's ethics, I certainly do not judge another's circumstances. He SHOULD also be able to assist you with info of reputable PM doctors who prescribe.
I was given Actiq pops as BT med with Fentanyl patches as primary back in 2005-06. I didn't take either for very long because I couldn't function. Other CP veterans have stated that major changes have occurred with protocol of pain med prescriptions. I would think that referral from your PCP or PM will be paramount in consideration of a new doctor. Either way, sweetie...You MUST seek HELP before you run out of meds and go into horrid withdrawals.
I don't want you (or your husband) to suffer...He's done enough of that through his service to our country, for which I must say I am grateful.
Hugs~~Dixie