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Hello Marinewife & welcome to the chronic pain forum. So sorry to read that you are dealing with so much. By coming here you will find you are no longer alone, there are plenty of us that do understand how you feel.

Pain has a way of zapping our energy & making a person feel alone. But, do not give in to it & keep fighting back. Hopefully once you get the MRI done your dr can give you answers as to why you are having so much trouble with your back. What kind of dr are you treating with & what has he done for you so far in trying to get your pain levels reduced?

Keep us posted on how you are doing & take care.

Yes, you are far too young to be having so much going on. How long have you been seeking medical treatment with these drs? I am much older than you but I can tell you just speaking from experience do not give up. It really comes down to finding the correct treatment that will help you have better quality of life. By that I mean be able to get up & function every day, you may be limited in certain activities & you can to learn how to do tasks in different ways. You may always have pain but there are techniques we all use to take our mind off of the pain & not let ourselves dwell on it. If we do that then we are letting the pain control us & the object is to control it.

You say you are depressed, chronic pain & depression go hand in hand for some reason. I would make an appt with my primary care dr & go in & tell him/her the depression from all of these health issues are getting out of hand & you need help. Sometimes we need to take medication short term to get us over the hump. Lots of people find once they get the depression under control their pain is less. Its a matter of finding which one of those medications work the best for you & you may have to try a few to find the right one.

Spouses do sometimes have a hard time accepting how pain can affect their wife. Men are generally are fixers & he does not know how to fix you. He may be frustrated because he does not know what to do for you. Also pain can change a person & you may not be the girl anymore that he married, this happens a lot. Maybe take him to some dr appts & let the dr explain to him what is going on.

Hang in there & above all get whatever help you need.

Good Morning MW: I too felt and sometimes feel like you do - but you are NOT all alone. My journey into CP hit me at 49 and within 2 years my life was literally turned upside down. I had to say goodbye to my career (approved for SSDI), all my hobbies that required any kind of exertion, highly limited activity and the realization that this would never change. What an landbasting that was!
But like you, it is so hard to feel that your are not alone because every day for me is a challenge. Whether it be the weather (cold and rain = pain), extreme fatigue and pain. Yes I am on medication but that only takes care of some of the pain and I refuse to be medicated like a zombie!
I have been married for 35 years now and I could not have made it this far without the support of my husband. He cleans the house, takes care of all the yard work, puts my scooter in and out of the van (when I can leave the house), oversees my meds, etc, etc. He didn't and could not comprehend the pain that I was in at first, but now totally understands.
What can I say to you to make you feel better? I can say that you do make a difference in someone's life, I know that much. You have to be strong, you have to make the best of the worst if you know what I mean. If you get to feeling really low MW, don't be ashamed to go and talk to someone (your GP or a psych/therapist). Sometimes a shoulder to cry on, just to let it out, does a wonder of good. Maybe you will need a med to help control those feelings, maybe not. Have you had a really good talk with your hubby? Let him know how you feel, let him know that you need him to be strong for you.
Yes you are young, but CP has no boundaries!
Do you have any relatives that you can talk to, that will support you?
I have many many bad days even though I have taken my meds, hugged my heating pad, sat in the Jacuzzi, had a massage, etc. Sometimes its like you cannot even put a dent in the pain, its relentless. Don't let it consume you, find a hobby to do - I do needle stitching on my recliner. You have to find something to keep your mind off of your pain.
You are not alone! Seek out help to ease your depression and grow stronger with your hubby at your side. You take care!

Suggestion, try to use your husbands language when explaining how your pain is affecting you. You've heard him describe his training, so maybe say you feel like you've been through the obstacle course 15 times today. Whatever might fit. Tell him you need a 'battle buddy'. Honestly, we battle our pain every day. If you express it in terms he can understand and accept, it may make it easier.

never surrender. healing thoughts i send.

I find the pain thing very depressing. I also feel angry about it and hopelessness sets in. Back pain is the worst. I don't know why your spouse is so unsympathetic. I have found as a general rule those who are mean to the sick actually act like total babies when they are in pain.

Hope things improve for you and sorry for your problems and hope you get good medical care.