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Posted 3/8/2015 10:05 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you so much Pitmom and Melagain,

One of her coach's was miffed at her for slowing down to help. She was told that track is a cutthroat sport and you should run by and only go back after you cross finish line. Her dad and I told her we were proud of her. I understand this is high school and most of the kids are trying to use this as a launching board to get into college. I still feel like I'd rather see her in the paper for helping another than the winner. Is that realistic to her future? I think it depends on what kind of future you want for your kids.

She came in 4th out of 8 in the 300m. Not bad for her first time.

The pain felt like it was going to kill me.... I know unreasonable lol. We were up and running at 7am and didn't get home till 2pm. Too much for my first day out and I paid for it. It was worth it. My arm, stomach (due to the meds), and girly time showed up, so I've got it in threes...lol I did have my husband draw me a bath with eptson salt, baking soda and lavender. Garbage bag and tie raps and I soaked for 30 minutes. It helped. Then I iced and iced.

Thank you for supporting me with my whining. It makes you feel better just to get it off your chest.
Posted 3/8/2015 10:42 PM (GMT 0)
Leila, I would get online & do some research for a pain mgt dr in your area. Also, another good site in finding drs is Vitals.com.. Then whichever dr you have the best relationship with is who I would go to & say here, I have been doing research & I am ready for you to make a referral to this PM dr.

Keep in mind there are two types of pain mgt drs out there. One will do nothing but injections & procedures no medications at all, the other will do the same but will also write scripts if deemed necessary. So, be sure that you don't get hooked up with one that only wants to do injections.

I do lots of things with my 9 yr old grandson because he distracts me from what I have going on. I kept him most of last summer & I also pick him up from school & keep him until one of the parents gets home. Once you can get a handle on your pain you will see a difference.
Posted 3/8/2015 11:30 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you for the suggestion Susie. I went to my GM and he gave me a reference for a PM. I am hopeful that this doctor is as good as he says.

I have to find something that is a good distraction.
Posted 3/9/2015 12:16 PM (GMT 0)
Leila, A compassionate child will grow into a compassionate adult. That's the kind of child the world needs! Congratulations! You have one! I'm glad she has her own definition of 'winner'. As for you being a 'whiner', well you are in good company! Expressing fear, frustration, dismay etc is healthy for us. Here, we all 'get it'. Same boat, different deck. Hope your follow up visit goes well.
Posted 3/9/2015 7:59 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you so much Pitmom xxx

Had first post-op today. He prescribed omeprazole for my continuing stomach issues, stomach and intranets. I took myself off the pain pills Saturday because of the constant tummy pain.

The tramadol(or how ever you spell it) tore me up and didn't help with the pain. Then I got oxy the Monday after surgery but had to play catch up. By the following Friday my stomach cramping was beyond what I could take.

He gave me Gabapentin to day and I know from past posts on my thread, that this will take a bit to get into my system to provide me with relief.

I have to get my stomach under control before I can get the pain under control.

I was a bit of a jerk to the doctor :( unlike me. I think due to lack of sleep, pain and stress over losing my job got the better of me. I chewed him out for not treating the pain sooner. Of course my husband said I was mean. But I felt mean.... I think the only person I made a point to is me lol. My doc is a tough bird he can take it.... even if my husband did make me to promise to apologise next appointed lol. I guess if you are acting like a two year old you should be treated like one.

Blessings to each of you
Posted 3/9/2015 8:25 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Leila,

Well it sounds like you have a plan girl! Hope your tummy settles down even more for you.

You should see some effects from the nerve medicine anyway from weeks on, it took me if I remember correctly about 3 1/2 weeks before I really noticed a big difference - I take Lyrica. One good thing I have to say about the Lyrica is that I had or have absolutely no side effects from it so hopefully everything will go smoothly on the Gabapentin.

Pain and lack of sleep tends to wear on us CP'ers, does it make us grumpy and fresh - yeap!! I've been there and done that with my doc, but he knew it was the pain talking and not me! You have your hubby there to keep you in check as well.

I hope you can rest easier tonight and get just a little more sleep!

Warm hugs from Texas,

Pam
Posted 3/10/2015 2:03 AM (GMT 0)
I've had moments like that with my doc....he takes it well cuz we have a relationship and he knows it's a byproduct of the pain. He's a big boy and can dish it back at me if I'm out in left field, which I have been on occasion. It's good that you and your doc have that going. I've got more respect for the ones that'll bark back at me. LOL

I saw stop signs as red blobs on sticks when I was on gabepentine. I was switched over to Lyrica and haven't had a single side effect. Unfortunately, I'm at the max dose and losing effectiveness daily, I swear. I was nervous when my PM doc handed me back to my family physician....now I know why. It's good that you got the referal. I was graced to get the head of the department who was willing to use whatever route worked best for me. I opted for medications so far. I'm a 'first things first' kinda gal.

Your daughter is already a compassionate young adult. Too late to go backwards, not that you'd want to. Selfish, selfcentered 25 year olds seem to be a dime a dozen nowadays--keep the example of what we want more of in the world, eh? She's already making a difference.
Posted 3/10/2015 5:14 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you Pam and Melagain

Getting this stomach issues under control seem to be more trying than I thought. I ended up taking sleeping pills last night to get a few hours of rest. I can't take anything to help with the pain until my tummy is settled.

Just feeling badly and disappointed today. Bit of a oh pitty me moment. Which seem to be more frequently than normal.

Thank goodness for all of you who are leading me positive thoughts and healing.
Posted 3/10/2015 5:48 PM (GMT 0)
So sorry to hear you're having tummy troubles. Ginger calms the stomach, peppermint too. I'm sure there are others more knowledgeable than I that can help with more suggestions along that line. I hope things improve quickly for you. Don't fret about 'complaining', especially when your meds aren't doing the job just now. Better out than in I always say! Better to share it with us who know what it's like than to let it slip out sideways at the family. ((((Leila))))
Posted 3/11/2015 1:04 AM (GMT 0)
You are all a blessing. Each of you have eased my mind and soul. I can't say thank you enough.
Posted 3/12/2015 7:24 AM (GMT 0)
Started the nerve pills yesterday. I know(thanks to information on here) that this will take a while but happy to get started.

Tummy is finally getting back to order. Not top notch yet but good enough to start taking the pain pills.

Slept for 6 hours. Whooo hooo.

And the stomach flu virus hit the house yesterday...... I swear my kids are carrier pigeons. Thankfully, I haven't gotten it yet. My middle daughter and husband are suffering.

I made abc/123 chicken noodle soup today one handed!! The sickies were so excited to try to make words out of the noodles. The chopping with one hand was like a comedy staring Lucile Ball. Whacking the carrots and celery and pieces flying around the kitchen lol.... and the dog flying around eating each piece that hit the floor lol. It was fun and entertaining..... granted when it was over I had to go back to bed but it was well worth it.

I hope that each of you had a beautiful blessed day.
Posted 3/13/2015 3:32 AM (GMT 0)
Hahaha...that pup works better than a hand vacuum!! And saved you having to clean up that mess, bless his little puppy heart. ;-) Sorry to hear that the flu found your household, too.....yes, we have it going on here as well. It's down to a dull roar, no more projectile vomitting (OMG it made me gag to type that LOL), just constant upset tummies when food of any type is consumed. *sigh* Fun times, as I'm sure you know.

Be taking care of you, eh? One episode of soup making is 'okay', but opening the door to doing more at this stage....probably unwise. You get one chance to heal, you know.
:-/ Just sayin'!
Posted 3/13/2015 4:16 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks Melagain... Keilani was quite pleased with herself. LoL it was a bit too much. But, with everyone down and 1 bathroom..... I had to do something. We had the same exact flu virus you did in your home. Eeewwwww....

I swear if someone taped Keilani and I we would have been the new sensation on youboob LoL...

My problem now is rendering to take the nerve pills three times a day LoL I am the memory of a flea.
Posted 3/14/2015 12:58 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Leila, I'm sitting here, picturing you cutting carrots with one hand and the dog 'flying' around to catch the pieces! Our 2 pitbulls love carrots too! Have to say, it's quite an amusing image! Thanks so much for sharing it with us!

I'm sorry to hear the flu bug has flown to your house. We had it here a couple of months ago. We are a one bathroom household with 3 people in it! Had to call out the 'bucket brigade', ha ha . The good news is it only lasted about 3 days and we pretty much took turns without too much overlap!

I hope things are improving rapidly, both with the flu and your pain relief.
Posted 3/14/2015 1:41 PM (GMT 0)
Hey Leila.I can't take Tramadol or Norco because of what it does to my stomach.

I see a Pain Management Doctor and take Morphine right now.It doesn't seem to bother my stomach.

I also take Phenergan for my stomach.

If the pain meds keep bothering your stomach make sure to eat something before you take it.

Also,yogurt has been a staple of mine.

Take care and God Bless,

Rick
Posted 3/15/2015 1:41 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Leila,

So, how are you feeling - better? I have to tell you, I was busting a gut laughing at your carrot story because the same thing has happened to me but with both hands!!! Yes I am a sloppy chef Boyardee and my puppy dogs know it! It's like when the mommy goes to cook in the kitchen, there will always be scraps and such either flying or falling ---hehe! It beats having to sweep up after my mess.

Has the flu bug flown away yet for your family, sorry to say I don't want to be a part of that - yikes!

Hope your having a great weekend. I am enjoying the sunny blue warm weather and it sure improves my attitude a bunch!

Hugs from Texas,

Pam
Posted 3/15/2015 3:34 AM (GMT 0)
Hello Pam, Rick and Pitmom,

Thankfully the stomach flu virus has left the building..LoL. We are 4 to a bathroom here .... the bucket brigade was my poor husband Glenn's responsibility along with everything else.

Funniest thing happened with my husband, we have been together 21 years. He stomped into our room while I'm laying in bed and says, "I'm so sick of being you! I can't wait until you get better!" And stomped back out. Hehehe... I had to laugh.

We have a stereotypical relationship, he works 8 to 10 hours a day and coaches high school football for the last 15 years. I was a stay home mom until 10 years ago when I became the lunch lady at our local grade school where our kids attended. So I was the taxi, medical expert, chef, and cleaning lady until 2013. I have an unnamed platelet blood disorder and had a burst ovarian cysts that exploded on my appendix. I had severe internal bleeding. (Sorry Rick girl parts lol) I looked 6 months pregnant due to the amount of bleeding in the cavity. It took our PC doctor 16 days to find a surgeon to do the operation to drain the blood and remove the appendix. I was on full bed rest for 6 weeks.

Then my injury in November 2013 was the start of 4 surgeries for my arm. He has had to be both of us for a long time and care for me.

I just had to giggle at his well deserved outburst. Now I call him my housewife. LoL

That is why I was doing my best to mimick Lucille Ball and make them soup. Keilani loved it. She is a rescued pit/lab, you would appreciate her Pitmom. Now each time I walk into the kitchen she stairs at the chopping block. Pam my dog would love you.

I appreciate the yogurt suggestion Rick. I have the same issues with Norco and tramadol. Those two medicines I told the doc were like eating razors. They put me on prilosec, it seems to be helping with the tummy pain but not with the intestents.

I also noticed the Gabapentin gives me blurred vision. It only starts about 15 minutes after taking it but only lasts 30 minutes in duration.

The pain is better, not as server as the lightening bolts I was experiencing.(unless I bag it) It is bad in the morning, dull during the day but bad at night. I'm sure that it is the same for everyone. I just need to get a good pattern going. I haven't found my groove yet.

Sorry this is so long. I am very happy that all of you have taken your time to talk me through this. Finding you all has been a God sent. I am not new to pain but I am new to advocating for myself and receiving medicine for it. You have all been key in helping me with that. I would have never known about a pain management doctor and other things that could make my life easier and less painful.

Please know that each of you have touched my heart.

Post Edited (Leila W) : 3/14/2015 9:40:54 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 3/15/2015 3:45 AM (GMT 0)
I would appreciate it if all of you would tell me how you are doing. I feel as though I have been selfishly been talking about my issues without inquiring about yours. Xxxxx
Posted 3/15/2015 9:14 PM (GMT 0)
Leila,

We could be sisters! My right ovary developed a grapefruit sized cyst, overgrew the appendix and had to be removed in emergency surgery because it was gangrene! All this while I was 8 weeks pregnant with my daughter! Talk about a miracle child!

As for how I'm doing, well, the more I do the more I hurt. Winter has it's own type of pain. With spring approaching, I will be busy outdoors and will have a whole new batch of complaints! ha ha! My garden is my sanity. Always something to do and always something lovely to look at when I'm done.

So far, I've trimmed back half of my ornamental grasses and have found 2 praying mantis nests! Since these are at the 'back' of the property and there are 2 nests in the bushes at the 'front' of the property, I should have very little pest control chores again this year.

I live in a single wide mobile home. My 'yard' is the space between my home and the next mobile home. I pack a lot in here! The majority of the space is used by the dogs (or should I say abused?) The rest is planted, practically every inch of it! I also have 2 raised vegetable beds for the 'main crops'.

Little by little, I've been revamping the perennial beds to include more low maintenance plants. I can't keep up as well as I used to. Where there's a will, there's a way!
Posted 3/15/2015 11:14 PM (GMT 0)
Ah, the joys of getting your hands in dirt. It's a healing, spiritual thing for me. It brings me great peace to be outside, to help things grow--we have a small garden, in terms of Iowa gardens--but it's a nice sized one for folks our age. (Himself is 66--and he robbed the cradle when he married me LOL!!)

13 year breast cancer survivor, in remission from subsequent Leukemia for 11 years. Blew out my back 5 years ago and had surgery to take care of the disc issue. Discovered I had developed an intolerance to gluten prior to that and boy do I miss fresh baked bread! Broke my leg at the end of 2012, dealt with 9 months of trying to stimulate growth before finally conceding to being non-union and having the surgery to put me back together .....which pretty much brings me to today.

Well versed in "that sort of pain", I've earned that "high threshold for pain" badge. The oncologist came to simply script pain meds with times, never PRN--I'd let the pain get ahead of me, which was never a good thing. And I'm a recovering person, so I'm hypervigilant about medications, sometimes to extremes (go figure).

"That sort of pain" ended. "That sort of pain" made sense--they cut off body parts, they fill your body with poisons, they zap you with radiation, they cut holes in your spine, they screw a large titanium plate to your femur-- IT'S GOING TO HURT. But eventually, healing happens and you learn to do things differently, you make adjustments, you keep moving and you keep living life. There's an ETA when you'll be able to live with those things. Sometimes they even told you the pain would end!!

"THIS sort of pain" doesn't come with an ETA to the painfree zone.
For reasons yet to be ascertained, after surgery on my femur "this sort of pain" happened. I did the tests--the EMG was a thrill a minute LOL--and the bottom line is I have "wacked out nerves" in my left leg and foot. Nothing compared to things others have to live with, but it's disrupted my life in ways all those other things that I lived through didn't.

I'm a bit baffled how that happened, given the journeys I've taken in this lifetime.
I was totally blindside by all this.
And I'm still trying to adjust. Probably a large part of why I'm here is that fact. I need to find the magic medication to either make this pain go away....or I need all the magic wands waving so I can make adjustments to live a reasonably sane and healthy life.

And I could use a few cheerleaders. LOL. Sometimes the toll, emotionally, is just as wacked out as my nerves are.

Nice to meet you and all the others!!
No pets. Unless you count the love of my life...who, by the way, is retired, does all the cooking, laundry, housework, etc... I'm the snow blowing, lawn mowing, ladderclimbimg, "get outta my way so I can put that new fuse box before you blow up the whole house" kinda gal. LOL. Himself is elated that I'll be actually able to mow this summer, trust me!! :-) ME TOO!!

Warmer weather this weekend has been very, very welcomed. And since the robins are here--its official that spring IS here!
Posted 3/15/2015 11:41 PM (GMT 0)
Oh yes, that is a lot of my life - dirt!!! lol I absolutely love my flowers and such in my back yard. It is one of the hobbies I had before my whole body nightmare began that I can do now. But I have to give credit where credit is due, my hubby. Without him to haul all the bags of soil and mulch, digging the holes for new plants I would not have the garden I do. He is my laborer......and by the way sometimes it makes me feel like
sh$% because I am just standing or sitting there watching him do all the real work.

And on the same tune, he is also my housekeeper, helps with the laundry, makes the bed, cooks dinner, does all the outdoor stuff that I can't do and then when I am really feeling bad - he does everything else plus that and then some. I feel so bad sometimes. I can remember a couple of weeks ago, I wanted to at least vacuum my living room - don't think so, he took over. I ran into my bedroom crying because it was like, "I can't even do the friggen vacuuming - how useless". Its hard sometimes, really hard to adapt to the limitations I have.

And then there are my babies, my fur people, my kids that give me unconditional love every day every single hour. They wake up happy and they go to sleep happy. I have 2 female German shepherds, 3 & 4 years old. When I am sick or hurting really bad, it's like they know because they will come up to me and put their paw on me, rug up against me and then lie down right at my side like they are watching over me. I love them with all my heart and when I am feeling low, they bring a smile to my face!

My hubby is newly retired and he is trying to find his glitch, another words what to do with himself in all his spare time. He's not exactly a craft kind of guy, I have no doubt he will find his way.

I love to do crafts, it keeps my mind off of the pain. And the rest of the time I will help with dinner, cut the carrots and watch the puppies go round and round after them! LOL

Take care and be well!

Hugs from Texas,

Pam
Posted 3/16/2015 12:06 AM (GMT 0)
Hello girls

Pitmom we have twin overies lol. We also have twin maricle babies.

Melagain I'll be your cheerleader any time.

Both of you have experienced numerous traumatic painful events and you are still here to share and help with onthers. This is quite a remarkably feat. You should be commended for your bravery in the face of pain. I admire your commitment and perseverance to find answers.

On a lighter note, I have a black thumb. Either of you want to come over here and work on my yard? LoL The only thing I can grow are roses. 27 of them. I don't even know what a praying mantis nest looks like...

My passion is photography. http://www.lisawestonphotography.com/

I love being able to capture moments in life. I had the honor to take football photos for California School of the Seats football team this year. Along with two other schools. I have been doing this for 15 years. I would love to be able to make a living off my passion. I'm no different than anyone else who loves something.

This has totally been a task this year. I spent more time driving home in tears than I can count. Stand for almost 2 hours with the camera did me in. I just didn't want to let the kids down. Two of the schools I shot for, their kids families had no money to get photos of their kids. I gave them the pictures. Some were lucky to have eaten lunch.

I'd love to see photos of your gardens. Size doesn't matter, it's the love that goes into it.

Hugs to both of you
Posted 3/16/2015 12:33 AM (GMT 0)
Pam what kind of crafts do you do?

I am so glad you have such an amazing husband. You are the luckiest girl in the world. Mine is learning lol.

You are a garded instructor! Most people pay good money for that. If I could get you three girls over here I'd have the best garden ever!

Aren't dog's just wonderful? I'm so glad you have two beautiful babies of your own. They do make your heart smile. Mine is with me all the time and does me the great service of letting me know when a pericerditis attack is coming. She is spectacular. But I am bias lol. She is a bit of a schizophrenic ..


A retired husband I don't look forward to lol. Have fun with that.
Posted 3/16/2015 1:05 AM (GMT 0)
Oh girl................first of all, what does she do that her mommy thinks she may have a little schizo in her? That is too funny! You gotta love em..... they are the best medicine around!
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My hubby is amazing, his scooped me up when I was a youngin' and told his best friend, "I'm gonna marry that girl"! Well he did, it was instant love for him, took me a couple nights! lol It will be 35 years in April and I just don't know where the time has gone. Sometimes it makes me sad because our clocks are ticking down.

Crafts, oh crafts.......Let me tell you before I was taken down with all this crap, I never had time to do any crafts. I was lucky to get in my 40 hours, cook and clean, shop and drop, you know all that. There wasn't a lot of mommy time. Well now........... that's all I have is time. So rather than sit in my recliner when I'm really feeling bad, I decided to start teaching myself crafts.

Pulled out a brand new sewing machine I got for Xmas 4 years ago and ordered a craft table. Now I do what's called "Prairie Point" star do-dads! They can be kitchen stuff, quilts, etc. whatever you want (google it), needle stitching - which is a lot like cross stitching, sewing, decorations made from fabric/other unusual items (usually xmas/special occasion gifts). It keeps me thinking on that and not on my pain.

And yea, your right - if we got together you would have the best garden around, for sure!

Take care,

Big Hugs from Texas,

Pam
Posted 3/16/2015 3:12 AM (GMT 0)
Wow that sounds like a lot of fun. I used to sew, then I had three girls and sewing turned into, mending and Halloween costumes. LoL. Then we get involved in high school football and that was more mending haha.

I 've known my husband since birth... I always loved him but he always had girlfriend's. I did do my best back in the day to get him to cheat lol... not ashamed to admit it because he was the love of my life.... of course he never did because he had better morals than me..LoL I was 16 what did I know. I was at his first wedding, that lasted 6 months. By the time we were 26 he was finally hooked. Thank God, that was a long wait lol. Two months after dating he purposed. I finally got to say, I told you hehe. We will be married 20 years this August. You and your husband are an excellent example of what works with love.

Well, Keilani was a rescue. She is a pit bull and Labrador mix. She was 4 months old. The lady who had the puppies was mean to them. She beat them, locked them in a closet and with held their food. There were two girls and two boys. One boy was sadly put to sleep, they said he was too affected to be adopted. Keilani is afraid of the dark, the bathroom, closets, loud noises, women she doesn't know and never ever raise your voice around her.

Because she can predict my pericerditis we tried to make her my service dog but due to her special issues we couldn't.
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