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Posted 5/18/2015 5:47 PM (GMT 0)
I'm feeling far away from people, I've told my hubby this a few times this week. I have had a lot of flare pain and on top of that the lining of my stomach is inflamed and I was doubled over on Friday in urgent care. I have had a lot of things lately that have caused me to feel isolated from normal ppl.

How do y'all deal with these feelings of isolation even when around ppl?
Posted 5/18/2015 6:43 PM (GMT 0)
Hey BunnyGirl.Sorry you're feeling that way.I'm glad you're not alone.

I'm bad about isolating and not talking to anyone for a couple of days.

I'm trying not to do that anymore.

I probably felt those feeling your describing when I was younger,especially.

edit: I've taken both Xanax and Celaxa for the last 12+ years.I'm sure those have helped.

Talk to your Doctor about this.A feeling of disconnect is fairly common I would think.

Hope you have a relaxing low-pain day.

Rick
Posted 5/18/2015 8:08 PM (GMT 0)
What you are describing sounds a lot like depression. Chronic pain & chronic illnesses go hand in hand with depression. Sometimes in order to get a handle on it we may need medication. The main thing is don't let it get out of hand.

I hope you get to feeling better.
Posted 5/19/2015 2:27 AM (GMT 0)
I've been feeling the same lately, but it's family that I'm craving. I keeping idolizonf families that are super close and comparing them to mine and wishing that it was different. And then that disappoints me so I pull away from all social circles almost as if to punish myself (I never claimed that this makes any sense, lol). But here's the thing, sometimes we just need a break from people - expecations and pain can really damage our self worth and we need to decompress, to recalibrate. Make sure that you're at least communicating with folks even if it's just by text/social media as it really does make a tremendous difference. Make a plan kinda far out in advance (a couple of weeks), maybe for coffee or something quick and lighthearted in case it's too much and you can easily claim a time sensitive errand. This way you have something to look forward to and you're not getting too deep in Unibomber territory. :)
Posted 5/19/2015 12:41 PM (GMT 0)
Don't compare your insides with someone else's outsides. That is what I was told. See, I get envious. I envy people that still have their parents. To see them together, having a great time, makes me miss mine more. If they are being 'disrespectful' to them...it's worse!!!!!!!!! If people have a greater income than me and are complaining about money, yikes! If they are complaining about a paper cut, while I'm in chronic pain that can't be 'fixed or healed'....watch out!

I have to work very hard to NOT envy. I have to work very hard at remaining 'social'. I tend to isolate, either because I don't want to bring other people down or because I get frustrated with them because I feel they just don't 'get it'. The 'don't compare' thing has helped me more than anything. I hope it helps you too.
Posted 5/19/2015 12:51 PM (GMT 0)
Hey BG sorry your having the issues and folks gave you some good ideas but I wanted to add one more here. Not sure what meds your taking on a regular basis but opiates have a tendency when used long-term to cause disassociate behavior and feelings. No I certainly am not anti-narc treatment just letting you know that sometimes backing down a bit for awhile will solve it or switching meds altogether. Seems to be just another one of the many things we deal with for adequate treatment. Gets old for sure.
Posted 5/20/2015 2:56 AM (GMT 0)
It's true, pain and depression go hand in hand.
Sometimes, for me, I need to force myself to connect with others. And yes, I can feel alone even around other people. But I have to go out and DO it anyway. I won't feel less alone by staying physically isolated.

I also have to remind myself to look for similarities instead of differences. And I can't compare my insides to another's outsides (pitmom and I musta got educated by like teachers LOL). I have to remind myself and I literally have to force myself to do it. You might find you need to do that as well.

I also have a trusted person in my life who'll tell me the truth even if it might initially hurt my feelings. I rely on him to remind me of what's important, and to not let me let my pain or my feelings get in the way of those things. So far it's worked for me.
What's important is that you find those things that help you keep moving towards others when your pain tries to tell you differently.

Keep pushing until you find those things. For me, that's insured the quality of my life more than anything in pill form ever has.
*hugs*
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