Ladies, I need some advise!

I am in my early 40's and introducing my "medical handicap" (pouch) to a new guy in my life is very challenging when the relationship turns intimate. In coming into a new relationship I still haven't figured out #1 how to tell a guy I have this pouch on my belly with poop in it and #2 how to stop the noise of constant gas (the quiet moments are the worst!) and #3 how to keep from stinking up his bathroom no matter how

much odor drops I use and lastly #4 what to use to cover my pouch or how to keep it from flopping all over during intercourse. Luckily I have had a very understanding ex but now it's time to drop the bomb all over again and it's frightening!!  

I was going to say tube tops too (I have kept some of my daughters old ones for if/when I might need them). Try posting this on the ostomy board, they might have lots more answers to your questions.
Good luck
Jo

I have no advise except maybe some fancy nighty top that goes past the pouch... I just wanted to give some (((((Hugs)))))). I know it must be tough telling someone something like this. Good luck! Karen

I like the idea of a sexy nighty that is tight (and low cut) on the top but then flares out... I think those are called empire wasted. And just warn him that its there but that he doesn't have to see it. Have you had any issues with hugging or whatever? I don't have a bag so I don't know how obvious they are when hugged.