Hello, I just discovered this site and have been encouraged from hearing about
others who have experienced the unpleasantness (being polite) of an anal abcess and fistula. Lately I have been feeling like I should just give up and end it all, but then I have read the courageous stories of those who have suffered much longer and much more pain than I, and so I am trying to "buck up" my courage and learn to deal with this.
I had a large abcess at the end of March and had day surgery. Then in mid-June surgery where the surgeon put in setons or c-tons? I saw her last week and she said just to sit in water a lot and she was leaving them in for now. I wish she would communicate with me more - all she ever says is that I had a large abcess (golf ball size) and these things are "complex". She never does anything but look at me with these sad eyes. I guess I have a fistula but she never has said one way or the other. I don't think I have Crohn's, but I may have a little IBS. She didn't give me any antibiotics or other medicine. Should I be taking something?
Is it really possible to ever have these things heal? I just feel so discouraged and hopeless, and then I feel guilty for feeling that way - It's really driving me crazy. Any hope you could give me would be greatly appreciated.
Female, 58, scared and anxious in Texas.