date Saturday, do I tell?

I've always had good experiences telling guys about my disease, I just wouldn't go too much into detail about it. Try to also sound optimistic about it, I think attitude is everything.

I would just order the fruit like it's no  big deal, if he says anything about it just be like "oh I have some stomach troubles, so I like to watch what I eat". Although I told my boyfriend every little detail about my Crohns before we even met!! we met online, I don't suggest throwing yourself out there like that, especially on a first date.  If things progress and a second date is set, then I would go on and mention Crohns. You're Crohns does not describe you, but at the same time you don't want to lead him blind.

Don't say anything, it is a private matter until the person is "close enough"to be deserving of knowing. If they keep on asking why you don't eat certain food just say you have allergies.

I agree that if it doesn't really come up it's okay not to disclose on a first date... fruit is a perfectly acceptable thing to order anytime! Good luck and I hope it's a success! :)

I'd go with the sensitive stomach . . . so many people have functional bowel disorders like IBS, that usually it's not a big deal. I would wait until things start to progress before going into further details. But if it does come up, and he asks why you have a sensitive stomach, just tell him you have crohn's, and that sometimes that means you have to eat carefully.

And yes, your attitude is a big part of how your date with accept your illness. If you are all gloom and doom about it, then, it's going to scare your date away. Keep it light and positive, and remember, a restaurant is just a setting to get to know the other person - so the food is more like a prop, the main reason is to chat and get to know each other better.

I hope you have an enjoyable date! I'm excited for you. :-D

PV

Maybe the second or third date if it goes that far...I just wouldn't wait too long cuz in my opinion when you wait too long then it really looks like you're trying to hide it all together and I know if I didn't have IBD but was dating someone that does then I'd want to know the sooner the better, not cuz it would change my opinion of them (although for some people it does, but those people aren't worth the time) just because I would tell a person I was dating as soon as I felt it was the right time and if you knew me then you'd know that I'd make the right time be as early in the dating stage as possible cuz that's just how I am and would expect the same from anyone else. Infact, I personally would likely mention it by the second date for sure, then I know whether or not if I'm wasting time with someone that has issues with me having crohn's.

:)

I think I would wait at least until the 2nd or 3rd date.

On another note, can you eat fruit at restaraunts? Everytime I eat fruit out, I get instanteous diarrhea from it. I know they say they don't put anything on it, but it gets me everytime. I can eat fruit at home, but for some unknown reason, eating out kills me. Good luck!