Don't you just love "helpful" people?

people who don't know anything about Crohn's but tell you what you should be doing? People who assume that what helped them with their heartburn is gonna cure your Crohn's? Or how about people who tell you that you must not have Crohn's very bad because they know someone who died from it?

In my office, this is all one and the same person telling me all this. I just smile....

My own sweet Mom is guilty of this. She's always seeing some colon health product advertised and telling me about it.

Nanners, that's hilarious.

 

I also hate when people try to guess what you can and can't eat. Today I was offerred cornbread. I said "well, I can't eat it if it has corn, or bread in it".  Although I do appreciate their kind thoughts, sometimes they offer me the dumbest things and start reading me the ingredients and asking if I can eat such and such. Last week it was doughnuts!

My mom and my husband are BOTH bad for this. They don't read anything and they both think that i am sick because i do not eat right. I don't eat vegtables and if i just ate them all the time i'd feel so much better. I am very tempted to eat a really big salad and them fish it out of the toilet sometime dump it in front of them and say THIS IS WHY I DO NOT EAT VEG!!!!!

It was so much easier 30 years ago when no one had even heard of Crohn's. I could make up any story I wanted just to get people to shut up.

Snappy, you are so right. i keep getting people who say "why haven't you tried XX diet. It worked for my aunt"....... after discussing the "aunt" find out she has and ulcer. People think if if has anyting to do with the digestive track then it must be diet you are on. UGH

It's definitely happened to me before. Family members suggest things that make no sense, tell me things I'm doing wrong, tell me to read articles written by some quack on the internet, etc. I usually just say I'll look into it, but obviously I never do. Thankfully, my immediate family is actually competent and doesn't get on my case for the things I do.

My Grandma does this alot... she means well and I do appreciate that she cares but sometimes it's very frustrating when she thinks she knows my own body/disease better than I do myself!

Well, I just want to add that what I think you should all do is...

Take a mouthful of water, then hold your breath for 10 seconds. Spit out the water, then stand on your head for three minutes. Then one minute of jumping jacks, followed by an enema, then swallow a spoonful of olive oil. Finally, place a flowerpot in the middle of your living room and run around it (in a clockwise direction) 30 times.

Repeat this procedure at least 3 times daily.


I heard (from my cousin) that this worked for his math teacher, who had migraine headaches. So it stands to reason that it will work for Crohn's too.

cheers,
Robert

After righting this post yesterday I talked to my mother on the phone. She read that Archway brand (and ONLY Archway brand) coconut macaroons ease crohn's symptoms! God bless her. Ironic that I determined recently that cookies are the major source of my inflammation.

For real, Sheep. Last week a guy in my office said he has "borderline crohn's". Like being kind of pregnant?

ashworthml...know the feeling with your Mom. Mine was the same way. I gave up trying to explain it and now I kind of miss her questions. God bless her she tried.

Then there are the other people who are not trying. They just want a quick solution for you. I usually just grin and say "thats nice!" unless I am testy that day. Then i say "I'll ask all those doctors I have to pay money to what they think and get back to you. Can I have a number to call you for more solutions when i am puking on the toilet at 3am or when I am stuck in the bathroom for 3 hours. I should probably call you everytime I look at food to get your opinion on what I should eat. It's OK I have a cell so I can call you anytime for this great advice."

I must say that we have been pretty lucky in this regard. I've not had any of my friends or family really give us irritating and bad advice - they know us, and know that we will have researched every avenue, so they just give us support when we need it, and not the "you should have done this instead" bit.

I do have some superstitious relatives, who believe in astrology. They tell me (when my husband is sick of course), that his astrological chart tells them that he's going through a rough time, and give me dates when things will start to improve (and of course they are sufficiently in the future, that if he didn't see improvement by then, he'd be in surgery). And when he starts to improve, they pat themselves on the back, and are full of pride at their "prediction". They mean well - a lot of India believes in astrology, and I know they are just trying to give me support and hope, but it really grates on my nerves when they start talking about it. I try to change the subject to anything else at that point. :-D

I think overall though, it's because people care that they give advice (and sometimes appalling advice) :-D So, I just try my best to not get annoyed with them, and just smile through it, and try to change the subject.

PV