Welcome, Kristy! Those doctor reports can be very overwhelming and very confusing, so it's definitely best to let the doctor explain it to you in layman's terms. When I review copies of my medical records, there always seem to be so many more things mentioned than what the dr said he found. I think they just have to be very specific about every detail in some of their reports. I'm sure the dr can help ease your anxiety by going over it personally with you.
The dr definitely should have told you the diagnosis instead of your husband, but he didn't necessarily break the law. Every dr I have has asked me to sign a paper saying who (if anyone) I give them permission to discuss my medical information with. If you signed one with your husband on there, he didn't really break the law. Didn't use the best judgment maybe, but didn't break the law. Also, if they let you bring someone in the room with you, I don't know how that works exactly, but I would think that you are giving verbal permission for them to hear your medical information. When I took my husband to the ER, they let me in every room with him and obviously, I'm going to hear what's going on. Many times, the drs and nurses spoke to me directly to make sure the instructions, etc. were understood by both of us.
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Ivy, Nurse Practioners are kind of one step below a M.D. and many doctor's offices here will have a NP on staff who you can see instead of a dr (most insurance covers them just like drs). Supposed to speed things up, but I don't know that it really does.