Posted 2/28/2011 10:53 PM (GMT 0)
I guess you have to get to the bottom of why she is acting like this, there has to be a reason but it is difficult to know what it is unless you can get her to open up(or perhaps she feels that she can't talk to you so is there anyone else that she would open up to?)What was the reason behind quitting school? Does she feel like there are no opportunities for her in the employment world? Does she feel like she is not being heard or getting enough attention, does she feel that someone else is being favoured? It could be something that we may consider trivial but to her it is a huge issue. I don't honestly feel like kicking her out is the answer but depending on the circumstances sometimes 'tough love' is the only way. Equally with the car and phone i would say that if she is paying for those things herself then you can't really remove them, however if you are paying for/towards them and she is living under your roof then she has to understand that you have rules and that if she wishes to remain in your house she has to start by abiding the rules, if she doesn't there will be no choice for her whether she stays or goes because she will not have a home to stay in!
If possible try and come up will some ground rules but when doing so try to look at the bigger picture of whether they all actually matter/are relevant(lose the little battles but win the war)
As a small eg, some parents insist on teenager's rooms being immaculate, but does that really matter after all it is their space! I would want to know where she was, with who and an agreed time that she has to be in by etc.
I am just throwing things out there because I don't know exactly what has gone on, what she does/doesn't do and what you have issues with. I do hope you work it out though.