My mom..kinda OT..Huge wakeup call

My mom was out visiting family in CA, where she hit her head hard snowboarding (wearing a helmet) and had to be airlifted to the hospital. She suffered severe head injury, and they had to take a piece of her skull out so relieve the pressure and allow swelling to go done. They will put the piece back in when it goes done. My brother and I are at home, and it's hard not knowing information first hand. It's been a waiting game, waiting to see how long she may have to suffer from this. They are waiting to see if she will regain movement on her left side in a few days or they say it may take weeks of therapy. If that is the case, then we have to deal with where she may be transfered to, closer to home or not.

This is just a huge wake up call for me because has been my rock with this disease, the one I can always count on, helps with everything. And we have recently been talking about what would happen if one day something happened to her, how would I cope and deal with everything. I'm not prepared for all this. If this is long term, I don't know if I can be strong for her and myself. The last few weeks have been really hard for me because everything I have been through has finally taken its toll on me. Maybe this is the distraction I need, being able to put my focus into something else instead of stressing and dwelling on what I've been through. Not that I want this all to be happening, but I am sure going to learn alot. It really hit me hard this morning, because I'm the other side I finally see what my parents go through everytime I was in the hospital, the fear of not knowing.

I just needed to share and type it out because you all are supportive and maybe able to give me advice on how to deal with out having my crohns suffer. The last thing we need right now is for me to end up in the hospital again. This also helps me process everything

So I thank you, and appreciate you taking the time to read this.

Oh sweetie, just breathe! We always find the strength to deal with what we are handed. You can't worry about what will happen if your CD flares up. Right now you are OK, and you need to focus on getting the information you need to help deal with your mother's situation. Trust that she is in good hands and that everything will be OK. Like Nanners said, If you feel like things are out of control, talk to your doctor to get some help. You will be of no use to anyone if you let anxiety get the best of you.

I know when I have had to deal with the most stressful of times in my life, even when I was flaring, my CD would magically calm down and give me a respite. It was like my body would know I could only handle so much. Then when things calmed down, the flare would come back. Maybe your body will treat you well and keep things at bay.

Please keep posting here and use us as your shoulders to lean on. That's what we are here for. Sending out hugs for you all. (((HUGS)))

I'm sorry to hear about your moms accident. Is she awake and following commands? My husband was in a bad accident 2.5 years ago and suffered from a severe brain injury as well as other injuries.

You will be fine, remember you learnt from the best on how to be a supportive caregiver. I also believe that living with crohns and all of its challenges has made you stronger than you know. Take care and pace yourself, these things don't heal overnight like on TV. I know what you are going through as I am still doing that myself.

Please keep us posted, as I will be wondering how you both are doing.

Julia

So sorry to hear about your mother. Saying prayers for her. GB.

Thank you for the kind words and encouragement. My brother talked to ICU nurse today, they said that they are slowly weaning her off the breathing tube is doing well. She will also respond to commands like making a fist and she can move and open her eyes. We called they held the phone up to ear and they said she opened here eyes when she heard us.

They told us there's no reason to go and stay with her while she is in ICU because she won't really remember we are there, but once she is out of ICU and they know more and she is progressing then we can make a decision about when we go out. They also said that too much stimulation too soon can be bad for the recovery of the brain. So as we learn more we will have a btter idea of when we can be with her.

This has really helped me for the first time see how strong this disease has made me and I'm really surprising my self.WE have a lot of support and help. It is just overwhelming letting people known and keeping them updated, but I'm taking one day at a time, which is hard for me to do but I'm learning