How do I cope with the fact that my docs don't want me to get pregnant again?

I had a child five years ago and much of the pregnancy was high risk and a mess. I was going into organ failure and started remicaid in my pregnancy after many failed attempts to put my crohns in remission. I also have a Jpouch. Yesterday for a routine pouch endoscopy, I still have a fistula, which is not abscessed so not an issue. But they said no more children. I am newly engaged to, what I believe is my soul mate. I dream of having his baby! He loves my daughter like his own, but he has no kids of his own and I could see the hurt in his eyes when we talked with the doctor.

At this point in my life, I am 30...I am almost finally graduated from an RN program (I have been doing this for ten years thanks to my disease) , my daughter is 5, and I think i'm ok with the fact that I cannot have another baby. My fiance spoke with me about it last night and said he under no circumstances wants me to put my life at risk again. It's just hard. Any ideas on how we as a family can cope with this?

I agree with your fiance. It is so terribly disappointing but you don't want to risk your life. How do you feel about adoption? Or if having your own biological child is really important to you, then Kazbern's idea is one to consider. Sorry you got such bad news.

I have a friend who just had her 2nd Cimzia baby, and her pregnancies were both pretty rough.  She was actually advised not to get pregnant the 2nd time, but did anyway. 

Though I don't have kids, I think it's every woman's fear that they can't have babies.  I'm 34, so I fear that by the time I'm married and ready to have kids, I won't be able to.  Or I fear that I will get pregnant and it will be too much of a health risk for me.

I don't think there's any perfect words to provide you, as this is something you have to find peace with in your own heart.  I just wanted to give you (((hugs))) and wish that you can get through this trial.

I agree with everyone here on the surrogate. I know it's very expensive and sometimes people don't think of it just for that reason but maybe it's something you both can save towards it and there is always adoption. I have a friend of mine who is newly engaged herself, he has children from his previous marriage but she has never been able to have one, she's adopting a newborn after he is born at the end of this month now and couldn't be happier. At first it doesn't seem like adoption is the answer, I know I at first didn't think I could care for any child but my own, but my DH's children from his previous children changed my mind about that very quickly, I love them like they were my own and I spoil them as much as I spoil my own children haha. Whatever you choose to do, our thoughts are with you, I hope the best for you two!