Have had 2 bowel surgeries & now I want to have a baby...Need advice

I had my first bowel resection surgery(had about 10inches of my small intestine removed) in May 2007, about 3 weeks later I had to have another surgery because I had an infection that needed to be removed. Now heres the tough part for me to talk about... after my second surgery dont ask me why I did it, I really beat myself up about it, but sometime after my last steri strip fell off of my scar, I started to pick the scabbing scar. I know I know, its discusting & dangerous, but it happened. Well I had a addiction to picking at it and it took a very long time to heal.(my scar starts at my belly button & ends very close to my you know what)Well the bottom inch or so of my scar is extra thin and redish & the rest of the scar is white and thicker feeling. I remember when I was picking it that the bottom part would be harder to pick off, but I still did it&it hurt, but it was like I would start picking and wouldent even think about it, then I needed to pick until there was no scab left. Ugh anyways I know this is really rambling on, but I have a hard time with this because I still to this day dont know why I did it & I think about how I really wish I didnt.

  So now I am at a point where I am going to be getting married soon & I am really ready to have a baby. I know I need to talk all of this over with my gi doc. (I have an apointment next month) But I just was hoping to get some opinions and advice on pregnancy with Crohns&specifically advice from anyone who has had major bowel surgeries& has a large belly scar. I am worried about many things obviously. But one thing im worried about is that the skin on the lower part of my scar is so thin that it could rip open or would hurt really bad from being so streched out while pregnant. I could really use a friend right now who has been trough my shoes. I have talked about this stuff with my family & others, but I dont know anyone who has been in my situation. Ok ive done enough yapping for now, if you have read this far thank you!!

Thanks for the reply. It makes me feel alittle better. Mine is also wider at the bottom. I feel silly thinking that it could rip open lol. But ive seen how streched out pregnant women get & the wide thin scar freaks me out. I have mentioned sometime along time ago to my doctor and he just rolled his eyes at me and said dont worry. But now that I am going to be trying to get pregnant soon, I have to tell my doctor that, so he can make sure im healthy enough to get pregnant.(he always said if you are ever consider getting pregnant make sure you talk to me first).

I am overly full of fears from the crohns and being pregnant. I have always been a bit freaked out about getting pregnant, like the pain and all the uncomfortable things that come with it. But now that I have crohns and want to get pregnant, I am so full of worries. But im really trying to stay positive and not worry. I am just at a point where I really want to be a mommy. I hope it all works out. Im alittle worried I might not be able to get pregnant. My doctor said there was a chance id never be able to have kids because of the imflation being so close to my uterus or something like that.

I had 8 inches of small bowel removed about 4 years ago. I had a baby about 2 years after. I had a great pregnancy as far as Crohn's goes (astronomically better than the pregnancy that I had 3 years before the resection when I was flaring). I was miserable only because of normal stuff this time, and I was actually able to enjoy it and eat what I wanted. I was also able to be off all medications, which was wonderful. I took Imuran for my first baby, and I worried so much about side effects and potential birth defects. The resection helped so much. I had vaginal deliveries with both babies. Both babies were born fine.

One thing that I want to mention is that my ob-gyn did put me as high risk only in the beginning. She said that Crohn's patients are at higher risk for tubal pregnancy because there may be inflammation or scar tissue that could be pressing on the tube. I had several ultrasounds done as soon as I had missed my period, as well as blood tests to make sure my hormones were at the right levels. Once she was certain the baby was safely implanted, I was no longer high risk.

Also, the scar was fine.