I am an older female. Fertility issues did not enter my mind. I already had 2 children. A friend had her eggs saved. A male person in our ostomy group had his sperm saved and yet another lady decided to adopt. There are options.
I have had 2 ostomy surgeries... The first one became obstructed due to hernias. The second surgery moved my stoma and repaired some of my hernias. My last surgery was a result of a rectovagina fistula that was located very close to the vagina
opening. During my first 2 surgeries they left some of my sigmoid attached to my rectum and anus. I still had active Crohn's in that portion, the fistula would release mucus with bacteria by my urethra, the bacteria would enter the urethra and migrate to my bladder and kidneys. UTIs for a whole year. The bacteria became resistant to all the antibiotics I used except for Cipro. Rather than wait for that to happen my Colorectal surgeon went back in (3rd surgery) and removed the sigmoid and rectum. (There is still a very small amount of rectum left) They scraped my anus and sewed me back up. It helped but did not completely resolve the issue. Methotrexate and Remicade make it so the small amount of mucus that is released still impacts me--but now we are able to use D-Mannose to counteract the bacteria and the infections have stopped. (D-Mannose is a supplement that helps prevent UTIs in some people.
As far as not being able to handle the surgery, or an ostomy... Any of those things. You are stronger than you think. If you have problems getting thru those situations there are people that will help you. You will need to reach out to family, friends, your physicians, a counselor, a religious leader if you are comfortable with that or support groups.You are stronger than you think. Research, prepare and reach out. I am not a touchy feely person. Reaching out is hard for me. It gets easier.
When I got my 1st ostomy it took 45 minutes to change my bag at home the first time. I was hyperventilating, sweating, nauseated, and felt like I was going to pass out. My ostomy nurse walked me thru it over the phone. It got easier. Getting thru/over the surgery. I coded thru 2 of my surgeries. Afterwards I didn't think I could do it, I wasn't strong enough....One thing that consistently amazed me was how much better I felt after each surgery. The first surgery I felt clear headed, no pain...amazing..but there were always these nagging issues with the portion left behind. The second surgery I could tell they had removed most of my problem areas. My anus and the tiny portion of rectum that we didn't get out still gives me some issues but not like before.
So when I tell you that you are stronger than you know--you are. People are amazing at doing things they didn't think they could. Another portion of the equation is your mind set. You get to choose how you want to live your life and have others relate to you. Once I felt better I chose to think positively about
my life, ostomy, and health. That does not mean that I don't struggle... I do. I just choose to look at the positive things. With an ostomy I am no longer having accidents during the night or am always searching for a bathroom. It gives me some control with an incontrollable disease. I get to choose... Do I want people to see me as a warrior fighting this disease, a victim, or someone just getting by. I do not do it alone. The people on HW help so much, the people in my ostomy group help, and my family. My sister sometimes reminds me to put on my big girl panties and not be a sissy. My other sister reminds me how much she admires my courage. My spouse reassures me and helps prop me up when I feel like I just can't do it..so many people... And then I take a breath... And I get back up.
You're right, our treatments/surgeries might not be a cure but they might help you go into a remission that may last a very long time or it might help improve your life while we are waiting for something better.... Even a cure.
Hang in there!
Clo
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