Hi LMills,
I just wanted to respond with a few thoughts to your questions about living with Crohn's and trying to accomplish what you want to do in college and carrying on with life. Others are offering similar thoughts, and are addressing diet and exercise, so for what it's worth:
I was diagnosed near your age, and for fifteen years have experienced this condition from mild to severe form. As you can see from the variety of responses you've received, we all have commonalities, but our experiences, tolerances, and outlooks differ; though you'd like to have an idea of what to expect, you can see that your experience will be your own.
One thing I can say is that my attitude has definitely made a difference in how I've been able to conduct my life. It is extremely easy to allow CD to take over, and to relinquish much personal responsibility--in the face of fear and despair. I try to remember that my choices are still my choices, even when my body feels out of control. I am still a bright and attractive woman with many interests, and I have a supportive, loving partner and family.
In my twenties, emotions and hormones ran rampant, and it was indeed difficult for a time to find any peace with this condition. I can imagine how you've been feeling--like a clubbed fish.
But once I got over the initial shock of diagnosis, I set to work managing what I could, and have found enough peace to carry on with most of what I'd like to accomplish.
Having made it nearly to doctoral candidacy, I say of course you can do it! I'm struggling now with my dissertation, and thought that is partly due to issues over Crohn's, I recognize that much of it has more to do with a faltering of confidence rather than the symptoms themselves. I may not be able to completely control CD, but I can control my emotional reactions to it.
I am therefore very very careful not to blame all of life's ills or failures on CD. If you do that, you relinquish not only necessary control over your life, your personality is likely to be subsumed within your identity as a patient--and there is no romance in that. People will not be drawn to you if you have a frequent compulsion to discuss your bathroom habits, medicines, or hospital visits and procedures. Our society has a shuddering fear of illness as well as age, and the pity party ends soon enough.
That is why a forum such as this one can be a great outlet--everyone here knows something of what you are going through, and you can express yourself in terms of your disease here, while maintaining as genuinely healthy an outlook as you can with everyone else in your life. I have just joined this forum myself, in the hopes of sharing information and support, and perhaps even discovering new ways of managing/treating CD or at least some symptoms.
You are in my thoughts, and I hope that your initial flare recedes soon, so that you can get back to some of the things in life that make you who you really are, and who you are going to be.
Suzanne