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Posted 9/9/2008 1:50 AM (GMT 0)
Any one else struggling with the decision to get pregnant? I have had a hard time getting back under control since i had my daughter a year ago.  I definately want more kids, but my husband is really stressed about putting my body through it again, especially if i finally do get back into remission.  We have decided that i need to stay on my remicade irregardless, and I know it is supposed to be safe to be pregnant on remicade, but i still worry about down the line side effects.  I guess I am feeling guilty because i wonder if i am being selfish in wanting another child.  should i just be happy with the wonderful daughter i already have, not to mention my wonderful husband who would have to take on a lot if i get really sick again?  I guess i just dont know what top think or to do.  Help!!!
Posted 9/9/2008 2:01 AM (GMT 0)
I didn't get sick with CD until my first born (daughter) was about a yr. and a half old...I knew very little about CD and a couple of yrs later my hubby wanted us to start trying for baby #2 (which I quickly got pregnant with as well) and before doing so I asked my docs if crohn's was hereditary and at that time they all told me it wasn't known for sure if it was or not so I gambled and went ahead getting pregnant with second baby (boy)....

Of course the more I've learned about the genetics and being predisposed to getting IBD the more I kicked myself in the arse for having kids (just my own personal veiw) but it really hit home the other day when my daughter (now almost 19 yrs old) told me she had to come home because of an urgent BM and ended up having an accident in her pants before she made it home only a couple of blocks away...well chances are she's on the same stinking path that I'm on and broken hearted I definitely am, she'll be going to see her doc for a referal to a GI this week.

The choice is individual, there are many reason to have kids and not to have kids, no one can tell you what your choice should be, go with your own instincts.

:)
Posted 9/9/2008 2:23 AM (GMT 0)
I wouldn't be feeling guilty, but in light of the fact that you could be hurting yourself I would take into consideration the effect that will have on your daughter and your ability to take care of her.
I almost died from being pregnant because it exacerbated the inflammation which in turn made the pregnancy worse and so on and so on and so on. I guess the question is if having a child outweighs the health risks and the risks it could pose to the rest of your family. I would say fine if you didn't already have a young child to care for but with her in the picture...I would just be a little more worried...
Of course in the end no one can tell you what to do, and I'm sure you have enough experience to make the right decision in the end whatever it may be so i wish you the best of luck in this. I know it's a pretty serious thing to have to consider and handle so..
Posted 9/9/2008 2:24 AM (GMT 0)
And to answer your first question, most definitely, but I know I have to wait too..am still getting over the last occurrence mentally and physically.
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