Starting over w/Crohn's after divorce

 I am recently seperated and getting divorced after 19 years in a bad marriage!!  I am now the single mother to two great boys (13 & 16)and I am living with Crohn's.  I think part of the reason I stayed for so long was low self esteem which Crohn's played a big part in.  The amount of stress believe it or not is sooo much less getting out of that environment, but I am now forced to be head of the house.  I worry if I get down or have a bad flare how will I manage?  It is kinda scary!!  I can't imagine finding someone else eventually to love me with all this baggage!!  That's a long way off though.  I am concentrating on my kids, my class (I'm a teacher), and my mom,dad, and brother.  Those of you out there that have loving supportive spouses give them an extra hug tonight and thank them and relize how lucky you are. 

Kimmy2 my exhusband up and left me and my girls back in 1991. At that point I had lived with Crohns for about 16 years. I was in remission at the time, and thru shear luck I stayed that way until 1999.

I think it is smart that you concentrate on your kids first. I dated some in the beginning but decided my kids needed me more than I needed another man. So once they were older and out of the house I made the decision to date again. Ended up getting back with the father of my oldest daughter and have never been happier in my life. I have been blessed with the most amazing husband, who takes such gentle care of me. Massages some part of my aching body every single day. What I am trying to say, is take your time to heal from this painful marriage and get rid of any emotional baggage you may have picked up. Heal your heart and within time someone else will be along to fill your heart with love again. JMHO Good luck to you and your kids.

God Bless,
Gail *Nanners*