Posted 10/7/2010 2:01 AM (GMT 0)
Wednesday TLC:
*go to my brother's - It was a long day. Left early, so we could stop off in the town centre for a couple of hours. Stupidly, I had a Whopper from Burger King for lunch. Urgh, big mistake. I've had 3-course meals give me less gyp than this burger. It wouldn't have been so bad if it had just gone straight through me, but it didn't. It hung around. Not only did it hang around, I became increasingly uncomfortable, so that by the time dinner arrived I didn't remotely feel like it and skipped it. Later on, when my sister-in-law arrived home from work, she was quite sweet. She offered me one of her challah rolls. I love challah bread, so bilious or not, I managed to eat it <_<.
Aside from that, it was a pleasant day. Enjoyed seeing my two nephews. The older lad put on a magic show for his nan - not the greatest magic ever, but he had the showmanship part down at least, bless. And the younger one made everyone assume he was ill by actually asking to go to bed. Early. He actually did it as well. He still wanted his stories, though.
@Ivy - It is a mess, isn't it? :-/ At least for now I have a respite of sorts. You mentioned finding a carers' support group, but I'm not a carer tbh :-/ My dad doesn't need any more looking after than he did before the stroke; he can still walk, drive, dress himself, etc. None of that is affected. The only thing which is affected is his speech; it's slurred but legible, so he can talk to people and make himself understood. He absolutely hates when people finish his sentences for him, so even on that front neither my mum or I can help out. I am actually humbled by what some carers do, but I cannot begin to even include myself amongst them.
As for my forum, it's hard to explain what happened, because in all honesty I have little idea! I was thinking about installing a forum mod (mod = modification, not moderator). I never got that far. Filezilla wouldn't let me connect to the database and when I tried to visit the forum, a page with MySQL errors came up instead. The forum's webhost had upgraded its version of MySQL and upgraded FTP to SFTP. If that's all double dutch to you, don't worry: I don't really know anything about them either :-/ But I think it was that which cause the MySQL errors, when I tried to use Filezilla. I'm not really sure, though!
As for the reason I wanted to install a forum mod, it actually was to give my moderator more functions, since I'm not there much anymore, and what he can do is pretty limited. On a different note, I can so identify with the pain of moderating >_<. But it is not the time or place to go into that... :-/
@choc - big hugs back to you *hugs!* I saw your post in Monday's TLC thread, but I didn't want to bump that back up so I'm replying here. I'm so sorry about your family washing their hands off their mum and you :-/ I find that really sad, maybe because my mum is part of a large family, with several sisters and a couple of brothers. It's not been hunky dory. In fact you can't mention my family without adding 'dysfunctional' in between 'my' and 'family'. But all the same they are still together. I am grateful I know all my aunts and uncles.
And I so feel you about the feeling trapped and wanting to move out of home but not being able to afford it :( I did nearly go ahead and try a few weeks ago, but in the end the only way I could have even begun to afford it was by claiming a whole load of extra benefits: housing, council tax, etc. It was tempting, the idea of having my own little flat, but the disadvantages were too great: not being able to afford to keep and run a car (massive, massive disadvantage), swapping dependence on my parents for dependence on the state, etc. I spoke to my GP about it (who's also a lovely fellow) and he basically agreed with me. He thought I would be better off trying to find a way back into the workplace than moving out..
PS: Lol @your kittens stealing tampons. Bless :p An aunt of mine acquired two new kittens recently. Well, not really kittens - they were 8 months old. But they're gorgeous all the same. I'd love to get a cat but we don't have a catflap, which makes it difficult...
*sees post* Eek. I actually meant to write a shortish post - that went out of the window, clearly <_<. It also took me absolutely ages to write this, believe it or not - so long I've actually reached my bedtime. I am gonna go, because I do really need to catch up on some lost sleep if I can. I'll catch you tomorrow, folks. In the meantime, hugs to Ivy and Choc! *hugs* :p