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Posted 10/14/2012 10:36 PM (GMT 0)
So, I've had a colostomy for a few years now and all my friends know about it but I've not had a relationship since. I've slept with guys and told them but I feel somehow that it is different from telling someone who you are really getting to know. I've met this guy who seems great, and things are naturally progressing to a point where I need to tell him before he finds out on his own. I just don't know how to tell him and how much to tell him. Do I tell him about the colostomy and the Crohn's or just the colostomy and how do I explain it and bring it up in a conversation? I could really use some advice...I'm nervous enough about meeting someone let alone meeting them with a colostomy.
Posted 10/15/2012 3:41 AM (GMT 0)
I've re-read your paragraph a few times to get it. I'm slow lol.

Basically, you're mentioning that you've had relationships with guys before when you didn't have a colostomy.

So now, you have a "bag" and are wondering how to approach the situation.

I think in general, people won't care that much which disease you have and what not, but they might care that you have a "bag"...because it's there and can be seen and it's foreign or unnatural.

Personally, I don't care, but I like people to be straight up and tell me what's up. You bring it up, you say you have this condition and your quality of life suffered and this bag gave you back some quality of life. That individual should understand.
Posted 10/17/2012 9:02 PM (GMT 0)
You tell him and then you find out if this guy is worth one more minute of your time. Think of it as kind of a fast way to find out if you're wasting your time - seriously.
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