Just started dating someone with CD.

Before I met my boyfriend I didn't know anything about CD or the extent of it. He is currently flaring and I don't know what to do or what to expect. It seems he's a different person. He's very mean and hard to talk to. So I've been giving his space, that's why I'm posting on here. My question is is this normal behavior. Love is unconditional and I don't love him any less. I would like to understand and learn more about the mental symptoms of CD. Please help Thanks :)

That doesn't give him license to be mean to you. Some people cope better on their own. Maybe give him some space, or ask him directly how he copes best. But don't take abuse from anyone!

You know, since I react the same way when I feel bad, part of it I think has to do with the fact that the person asking is not sick and can't really comprehend on the same level how I feel about this.

Another part of it is jealousy. Jealousy that one is healthy and I'm not.

I'll give you an example. I get to my parent's place and I enter and I don't look too good. I feel bad. My mother will ask the dumbest question. "What's wrong"

What's wrong?! WHAT'S WRONG?! What could possibly be wrong?!! Are you sh....ting with me? I mean, I've been sick with this disease for the last 2 years and you ask me what's wrong?!

After I "rough" her verbally a bit, she gets the message and stops asking those million dollar questions. She only asked the same question two days ago. I guess that was a lifetime...


Oh oh, forgot to mention what happens next. So I sit at the dinner table, minding my own business, trying to act normal and all sudden my dad pops the million dollar comment. He's drinking hard liquor at the table and states: "You know, you should drink hard liquor like me cause this clears the intestines of bad stuff. "

When you heard dumb-ass stuff like this, it's pretty hard not to be mean. I've been diagnosed only 2 years, and oh maaaan, I heard and stupidest questions and comments ever.

It is not easy to be friendly when you're sick, but if you have a chronic illness and are sick a lot, I would work on it :)

That being said, I'm sure I have lashed out at my husband from time to time and he will just walk away and tell me to let him know if I need anything. That way I can approach him and get some needed alone time. I would not tolerate frequent shortness or negative behavior from your boyfriend, but maybe cut him a little slack (as it seems like your doing) while he's feeling ill, then talk to him about it once he's feeling a little better.

Good luck to you!