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Posted 3/7/2008 3:46 AM (GMT 0)
so theres this girl that i've liked for a long time, and she stayed at my place this weekend.
well on saturday night, we were laying on the futon watching tv at like 1am, and i just kissed her. she didnt seem to mind, so i kissed her again. soon it lead to making out, and other stuff. i asked her if all this meant anything, and she said i hope so. so i was excited about this.

well she left on sunday, so i kissed her goodbye, and she got on the train and went back home. well i got a text later that night saying that she is scared about this partly because shes moving to so-cal, and that she just got out of a 7 month relationship and she needs time.

so i asked her in time do you want to give this a try, and she said she hoped so. later i asked her if she had any feelings for me that night at my place, and she said she thinks so, but it just happened so fast. i asked her if she had feelings for me now, and she said that she didn't know and she had to think about it. so i was pretty crushed about that.

well, the next day i asked her to be honest and tell me how she really felt about me, and she told me that she doesnt think that she has the same feelings for me as I do for her. I was crushed. I asked her why she didn't tell me saturday night, and she said that it just happened too fast.

I have not felt this bad in a very, very long time. I got a taste of what it was like to be in a relationship with her, and i loved everything about it. now knowing that it didn't mean anything, i really don't know how to handle it.
Posted 3/7/2008 4:55 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Slot,

It sounds like that was just a weekend of fun for her. At least she is letting you know now that it isn't serious. That doesn't mean she wont see you again. Just don't get serious about it. Just date. There is nothing wrong with that. When it comes to the right one you will know it. That is nothing to rush into.

Karen
Posted 3/8/2008 12:30 AM (GMT 0)
Slott

It is very hard to start a new relationship,and as Karen said..it might have been just a fun weekend for her.
That is not fair to you that is for sure.

Don't sell yourself short. When the "perfect one" comes along you will know...
Posted 3/8/2008 4:36 AM (GMT 0)
i feel like i messed up though. my friend said that she wanted to stay at his house instead of mine cause she didn't want to give me the wrong idea. and her best friend told me that she's not ready for a relationship. and i went for it anyway like an idiot. everything just felt right.

for some reason i can't move on. i still really have a lot of feelings for her.

and i was planning on going down to see her, but now she doesn't think its a good idea. i asked her why, and she said personal reasons.

i don't know what to do. i have nothing to look forward to in life. i was looking forward to graduating, but now it means nothing.

Post Edited (slott) : 3/7/2008 9:46:10 PM (GMT-7)

Posted 3/8/2008 5:10 AM (GMT 0)
Don't give up on everything so easily. You should still look forward to graduating. I think in any relationship, you should think of your priorities first. Your education will be with you for the rest of your life and that should be most important to you right now. The rest will fall into place when the time is right.

hugs, Karen
Posted 3/8/2008 12:56 PM (GMT 0)
Slott

You have alot going for you,so many decisions to make,and your whole life is ahead of you.

Quite frankly,if she does not want you to go see here,there is probably a big reason. She might be in a relationship with someone else.

You do not need to have that in your life... like Karen said the rest will fall into place when it is right.
Posted 3/11/2008 12:40 AM (GMT 0)
Hey Slott,

It sounds like she likes you, but has a lot on her mind right now (i.e., moving and getting out of a relationship.) If you do really like her, give her some time and space and see where things go. If things are pushed right now, she will run in the other direction. Also, it may be disappointing to find out that she is not interested in a relationship right now, but it's much better to hear the truth at the beginning. Try to focus on other things that keep you from thinking about her. I know it's hard, I've had my heart broken far too often, but it will heal. And there will be plenty of other girls out there waiting for you. All you have to do is pick up a spoon and find the right flavor for you! :)
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