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Posted 6/20/2008 8:39 PM (GMT 0)
Hi everyone ,
Good to have found this forum.
I am a chronic depression sufferer , I joined this site because of the Hon code rating ,
at times I need to talk , to say how desolate I am feeling , my work consists of running art work shops.
Good rewarding work which helps me forget about myself .
As with most chronic depressives , I find it very difficult to have a social life, and am desperately shy outside of work. Oddly enough I am not a sad person , many things make me smile , I try very, very hard to overcome the depression. Using the appropriate meds and counselling when it rears up yet again.
Looking forward to sharing , supporting, laughing and crying with other members .

thanks for reading dejavu
Posted 6/20/2008 8:42 PM (GMT 0)

hey dejavu,

its nice to meet you!

Posted 6/20/2008 8:54 PM (GMT 0)
hey Confusedi ,
thanks nice to meet you too, I like your signature very much !
Posted 6/20/2008 8:55 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks!!!  It's very relevant too me, I'm such a pessimist!! lol!
Posted 6/20/2008 8:58 PM (GMT 0)
just like my frequently cloudy sky !!! deep sigh , lol !!
Posted 6/20/2008 10:07 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Dejavu,

As you have already found out, we have some wonderful members here. I think that you will find that this is a wonderful place to visit. We are all very supportive of eachother.

I hope that you find it comfortable enough to continue to post.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 6/21/2008 8:22 AM (GMT 0)
HI Karen
Many thanks for your warm and kind welcome post. I must say it was good to visit and find it this
morning .

This makes it easier to join in . Thanks again and I hope your day is nice.

hugs back Dejavu
Posted 6/21/2008 8:32 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Brian ,


Thanks for your nice welcome post , how good that you have sold your work , well done . what type of medium do you use ?

I do admire any one who over comes the social isolation. It is a real battle .

I isolate myself , now deliberately , telling myself that I have nothing to offer outside my proffessional competences . in fact this is quite difficult to talk about . Sorry . I'm not quite ready to open up.

Tell me how do you cope with it Brian ?

dejavu
Posted 6/21/2008 5:05 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks Brian for your response ,

Similar to you , I switched to acrylics , for drying reasons and the lack of solvent vapours. which gave me headaches with oils.

Painting has been the golden thread in my life, my job enables me to share and transmit knowledge and encourage others.

Okay if I am honest , no ,I do not always like my social isolation . I try to find reasons for liking it completely , large social gatherings terrify me , and there are few , very few pple I know who are not in a relationship and available for gentle walks in the country. or exhibition visits .

I go alone at times , but find it easier to stay at home , being solitary at home is okay , but being solitary outside is not comfortable at all .

I am not whining , just saying how it is. thanks for listening. I admire your courage and generosity with the volunteer work .

dejavu
Posted 6/21/2008 5:42 PM (GMT 0)

Hi Dejavu, I was interested reading your posts and also welcome you to the forum.  You will find some wonderful and friendly people here that you can talk to or get advice if you want.  I am always willing to chat.  I too suffer from depression and am having a hard time as I am often alone in the summer.  If you don't like going out in public you may have social anxiety which is treatable. I know my son's fiance has that problem and she is very shy.  If you can go out with one person to an event or dinner that might be the answer.  I don't think it is good to isolate yourself at home.  Do you live alone and do you have family nearby you can feel comfortable with?  It is good that you have your art to keep you busy.  I needlepoint, garden and read a lot and that keeps my mind occupied.  I do need to be around people so I always try to set up things to do especially on the weekends.  I also am a volunteer at my local Senior Citizen center and that is very rewarding. Maybe you can find an activity to try with some one and see how it goes.  Also, couseling if you can get it where you are would beneficial.  I wish you the best and post anytme -I will answer you. Take care.

Aurora

Posted 6/21/2008 7:50 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Aurora ,

Thank you for your welcome and advice , this is something to think about , I just thought I was abnormally shy . I do live alone now , have done for a number of years . All my family live in another country.
I think maybe volunteer work would be a good idea , will have a look around to see what I could do in the area . this is very helpful . how is social anxiety treated ?

thanks again for your support
dejavu
Posted 6/21/2008 9:44 PM (GMT 0)

Hey dejavu,

Have you ever been alone in a room full of people.  I have, and it is very undcomfortable.

To answer you last question, you should see your physician first to make sure you have no physical issues going on.  A combination of psychotherapy and medications is the usual choice at this time to treat social phobias.

CBT is very helpful for many people. If you have questions on treatment modalities please just ask and someone will give you the information.

Bless you and know I am here for you.

Hugs

Kitt

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