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Posted 9/3/2008 3:43 PM (GMT 0)

Welcome to HealingWell Lbrandy66

Please take your time and post when you feel comfortable. I have found the support, validation and encouragement that I receive here, to be so helpful and healing. I hope and trust that will be your experience as a member of the HW family.

I am so sorry for the many losses in your life.  I have been through a very similar time in my life.  I used to have what I referred to as my funeral wardrobe.

But now I try to celebrate the life of the one who has died.  This is not easy but the depression lifts some by thinking this way.

Your parents...............wow, I am so very sorry they up and moved away.  That feels selfish to me but I am not judging your parents.  Does your Mom have any depression herself ?

Keep on posting and know we are here for you.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt


 
Posted 9/3/2008 4:15 PM (GMT 0)

Thank you Kitt,

It makes me feel better to just know that someone understands.  I do feel that I have come to terms with these losses in some sort of way, but the depression just will not go away.  As for my parents, yes my mother has been through a severe depression, was suicidal and hospitalized for this right around the time she went through menopause.  So she of all people I thought would understand.  I think her feelings were hurt because I shut her out, but I have shut everyone out except my husband and children. 

Once again thank you, it is nice to know someone cares (especially someone that does not even know me),

Lbrandy

Posted 9/3/2008 4:34 PM (GMT 0)
I don't think that your husband will give up on you. Mine hasn't. I think that we are very lucky that we have such wonderful husbands. Mine has been there for me through the depression and also the fibromyalgia. I know that it hasn't been easy for him since I spent two years in bed due to the fibro.

Try to keep positive thoughts and live in the moment. That is so important when dealing with depression, we need not dwell on the past or worry about the future. By staying in the now, we can focus on the issues at hand, things that we can do something about.

Best wishes for a wonderful day.

Hugs, ...Karen
Posted 9/7/2008 6:35 PM (GMT 0)

Hello Everybody,

 my name is Bill, Im 29 and I feel very lost and confused.  I guess I first notice depression in my life as a young teenager and I have always battled back and forth with it.  Sometimes with meds, sometimes without, sometimes with self medicating which is never good. 

I've been viewing these forums for awhile now but never really posted so here it is.  I wanted to post so I can say that I did.  Beside's my battle with my mental issue's, the other thing that ways very heavy on my mind is my social phobia.  This is something I would love to get a handle on and confront but I just don't know how.  everytime I try I feel more and more down.

i dont live with my family, however they live with me in my house.  I feel at 29 I should be married with kids but instead Im single with no idea where to go.

My hope from this forum is to just vent and get stuff off my chest and maybe some support and/or insight on how I'm feeling and how to cope.

thanks,

Posted 9/7/2008 6:45 PM (GMT 0)

whatsgoingon

Welcome to HealingWell

Please take your time and post when you feel comfortable. I have found the support, validation and encouragement that I receive here, to be so helpful and healing. I hope and trust that will be your experience as a member of the HW family

We are always open for venting wink .  Also start a thread of your own and give it a catchy title so we can all help you with support, suggestions and lots of Hugs to help you heal.

Kitt

Posted 9/7/2008 7:47 PM (GMT 0)
Hey Bill,

Just wanted to welcome you to HealilngWell. I think that you will find that there are a lot of kind and caring individuals here. So it is a good place to vent and bounce things off of. I am happy that you felt comfortable enough to post. Hope to hear more from you.

Karen
Posted 9/8/2008 9:30 AM (GMT 0)
Dear Bill, I hope you will soon feel comfortable enough to post whatever is on your mind,and feel the empathy and support you'll get from everyone on this site.From what I've seen of it so far(I'm a recent member),everybody here has so much experience and wisdom to share,and I've felt real warmth from anyone I've had contact with.I hope you will start to feel less isolated if you can have contact on here,which is a safe place.Who knows,it could be a step towards dealing with your social phobia,as well as your other difficulties.Take it easy,and remember the other great thing about this site is there's always someone around-----as members come from all over the world,it doesn't matter when you want some contact.I was on here at 3am recently(I'm in UK),and someone from Australia had a kind word to say.
A bit like you,I have several mental health issues,and I've found the kindness on this site makes me feel less isolated.Yippee for the internet eh?
Hope you feel comfortable to say a bit more about yourself soon.And more than anything,I wish you a return to full health,and hope you can find real enjoyment in life again.All good wishes.
Posted 9/9/2008 2:51 PM (GMT 0)

Welcome to HealingWell ,

Please take your time and post when you feel comfortable. I have found the support, validation and encouragement that I receive here, to be so helpful and healing. I hope and trust that will be your experience as a member of the HW family

Tell us a bit about you turn

Posted 9/19/2008 1:13 AM (GMT 0)

hi I am beek

I am 63  and lost my son almost 4 yrs. ago now the dr. want to give me lexapro because they say I'm depress. I know I am depressed but I feel that it is not a chemical enbalance. I am afraid to take it because I am short and I really don't want to gain any more weight. sometimes I get so confused that it hard to make a up my mind. it is hard to see the grandchildren. 3 girls. sometimes I  feel like am losing it.

Posted 9/19/2008 9:49 AM (GMT 0)
Dear Beek,I hope you will find this forum a real help to you,as everyone here has experience to share,and maybe you'll feel able to share your own wisdom soon.This site will offer you a lot of support,but you may well be able to help others too.When you're ready,of course.I am very sorry to hear that you lost your son;it must be a terrible thing for a parent to lose a child.Do you think you are still deeply grieving for him?Have you talked with anyone who is experienced in bereavement,and who may help you through your loss?.People grieve at their own pace,so take it easy.
Your Dr may be right,and maybe you would benefit from anti-depressants,but there are lots of different ones,and they don't all inevitably make people put on weight.Have you talked to your Dr about your worries re weight gain?They may be able to put your mind at rest.I would think there are lots of people on this site who will pass on their own experiences with Lexapro.I've been on so many anti-depressants over the years that I've lost count,but the ones I'm on at present(Citalopram,Mirtazapine,and Trazodone),haven't affected my weight to any great degree(If I'm overweight,it's because I'm eating too much of the wrong stuff!)When I'm not too anxious I go to the gym--swimming is very soothing.I never believed it until the last 3 years,but exercise really does help lift your spirits.If your mood is very low,though,it's not always possible to motivate yourself.I know that all too well.
I hope you have a kind understanding Dr,who will listen to your worries.Maybe the right kind of talking therapy combined with anti-depressants would work for you.You don't always have to stay on them forever,either.If you decide to take anti-depressants,you might have to shop around a bit----I know people who have found one drug or another helpful,but I've found the side effects too much to deal with,and vice-versa.
You have taken a brave step to post on this site,and I hope this is the start of better things for you.You will find a lot of support here.Please let us know how things go.I wish you good health,and peace of mind.
Posted 9/19/2008 7:14 PM (GMT 0)
Hi, my name's Doug and was surfing yesterday for some good folks to talk to. I'm 58 years old, twice married, with 3 grown girls and 4 grandkids. Feel some better already just knowing I'm not alone. I don't really have any friends except my wife and I can only dump on her so much. She has issues as well. I served in Vietnam, returned unscathed or so I thought. Was a postal worker in the 70's but a knee injury ended that. Back to school I went and got an Associate degree as a Med Lab Tech. Terrible decision! 3 years of school wasted only to find the stress of the job unbearable for me. I had to leave or go crazy. That failure was a real kick in the teeth. Had the VA contacted us and perhaps screened us for PTSD after the service I think I would have made better and definitely DIFFERENT decisions. That was 1985. Went to VA for sleeplessness while doing odd jobs and started the ball rolling to find out why my life sucked. Have been struggling ever since but not ready to give up. Just want to feel better. Have run the gamut of treatment including meds, group and individual therapy. Still, it seems hopeless at times. Best thing is to have someone to talk to who won't judge you. Many Vets forums I've tried DO judge you! Stuff like: You just want the disability pay, you're a lazy loser, etc, etc! I like to be nice to people and expect the same in return. I've found that's really not realistic. One snide comment and I'm shot, dwell too much on the negative I know. Anyway, glad to be here and that's my story. Your's, Doug
Posted 9/19/2008 8:39 PM (GMT 0)

Doug,

A warm welcome and also thank you for serving in Vietnam.  IMHO the Vietnam War vets did not recieve the credit or the welcome home they more then deserved.  My husband is a Viet Vet.  I have been to the war memorial in DC 3 times.........and every time I see it I am stunned by so many names. God Bless All the people that serve or served our country.

You will find the members here not to be judgemental.  They are kind and caring and most of all very supportive.

Again welcome to the healingWell family.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt

Posted 9/19/2008 8:42 PM (GMT 0)

Dear Beek,

Welcome to HealingWell.  I have lost a son too, but I already had depression when the crash happened.  Please know that the members here will do thier best to help you feel comfortable and at home here.

Post away, we are glad you found our site.

Kitt

Posted 9/20/2008 12:05 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks for the kind words Kitt. They do mean a lot. Been to the Memorial twice myself and know what you mean about the names. I try to read them but there are just so many it was impossible. Your's, Doug
Posted 9/20/2008 7:08 AM (GMT 0)
Hi, I've been posting for a couple weeks but haven't officially introduced myself. I'm in my early 20's, just started graduate school. I came onto the forum because I always feel the need to spill my guts at night. I don't know why this is, but I just need to vent/release before attempting to get some sleep. I don't know if something happened to me late at night in a past life or what, but I just feel very depressed and lonely at this time. I used to talk things out over the phone with my boyfriend, but since we're not dating anymore and I'm trying not to depend on him as much, I am in need of support and reassurance with the stressful things going on in my life. I am so appreciate of all the help I've received so far and I'm glad to have the chance to help others through their depression as well. By the way, I'm on the west coast, so if it seems like I'm posting super late, it's actually probably not THAT late!

I believe in staying positive, so I will always add a bit of optimism to my initial threads or response posts, no matter how dark and dreary things seem. I know from experience that even though the world seems like it's over, things always get better and those rough experiences only make us stronger.

Love and light, <3
NW
Posted 9/20/2008 3:22 PM (GMT 0)

NightWish

Thank you for the intro and you have truly come to the right place as the members truly care for each other.

Always keep your optimism as it will take you far. You are an inspiration to so many already.  Let us help you. :-)
Hugs
Kitt

Posted 9/20/2008 8:28 PM (GMT 0)

Hi to everyone on this site blush !  I am 40 yrs. young and yet feeling like a already have one foot in the grave.  I am the mother of a 21 yr old, a 16 yr. old and a 15 yr. old.  Married 22 years to a GREAT guy and have really everything a woman could ask for.  I don't have to work...unless I choose to....and my kids are wonderful....although they still are teenagers and one married and in the United States Coast Guard in Florida.  I'm really wanting to understand the best I can this depression that is consuming my life! I know I'm not the only one out there that is just hanging on by a thread at times shakehead !  I should be extremely happy yet I feel soooooo alone and empty...I had a complete melt down in Nov. of last year in which I reached the end of the perverbial rope.  I lost count of what amount of med's and when I took them and ended up unconscious on the floor.  I woke up in the ER with my family and pastor at my side but yet still alone! They try to help me by saying they will pray for me and it'll be alright and just call me....and when I do it still feels like I'm wasting their time and mine. 

I just decided to sit down at this comp. and type in chat for depression hoping that I could find someone out there that knows what I am going thru. and might offer me something that I haven't tried yet.  Any suggestions?

woundedsoldier

Posted 9/20/2008 11:31 PM (GMT 0)

Hello Wounded

This is Kitt.

Life is full of challenges. Sometimes situations are beyond our control, and sometimes we create challenges by our own hands. It isn't always easy to face them alone. Sometimes we just need somebody to understand us. Sometimes we just need a friend. Welcome to HealingWell, and the depression forum. Here you will find members who will listen. More importantly, here you will find members who will care. You can take your existence and make it so much better for you. . We can help. :-)

Please feel comfortable in starting a thread of your own and the members will respond with caring and support.

I am so glad you found us.

Gentle Hugs
Kitt

Posted 9/23/2008 10:56 AM (GMT 0)
Dear Wounded,
I'm very glad you found this site,as I think it really will make you feel less alone,and as I'm currently in a very dark place myself,this site has made me feel less isolated.You have many successes in your life---a good enduring marriage,kids you can be proud of;try to remember that you are a good person who is worthwhile,no matter how much the illness tells you otherwise.
I understand your feelings of guilt---it can make you feel like you're being selfish,when you think you have no reason to feel so low.But you have no need to feel guilty----you're suffering from a horrible illness,and I hope the stories you hear on this site will make you feel that there are all sorts of ways that your experience can support others who are isolated,as well as ill.But only when you feel ready.In the mean-time,there is always someone here to listen--I've posted stuff at 3:30 am,and someone somewhere in the world replied.
I can relate to your horrible meltdown experience,as I had a similar one.Do you find your Pastor good to talk to?Do you think your Dr understands how you feel?I will pray for you,if that's OK.On a practical level,are you on any meds?
I worked out a while ago,that what I need when the illness starts again,is the right medication,and above all,KINDNESS.You'll get lots of kindness from this site.I've been really moved by the friendship shown to me by people on here,who reach out to others,despite being ill themselves.I hope you'll start to feel less alone soon.Try not to feel you're wasting anyone's time----I would love to know how things are going with you,and so will everyone else on this site--it's that kind of place.
I wish you peace and health.
Posted 9/24/2008 1:55 AM (GMT 0)
i am new here i'm 20 years old and a southern girl to the t. i love fishing hunting and anything to do with music. but i am always depressed and down. i used to feel better when i played and now i don't even feel like playing my guitar or singing. well that is me... confused what's wrong with me and why can't i be normal again?
Posted 9/24/2008 8:24 AM (GMT 0)
Southerngirl,

I just read your other post & what is wrong is that for the last few years you have had some hard hard things thrown at you, that doesn't mean there is something wrong with you - it means that you are responding to the situations you have been placed in! You should be proud to have come through all that and still be moving forwards. I hope that you can get the help that you need!
Posted 9/24/2008 9:04 AM (GMT 0)
Southerngirl,
There are so many kind people on this site,and they will give you lots of support,so you don't need to feel isolated.I hope you will feel able to share your experience with others--believe me,you will receive lots of good advice,and if you just want to talk about how you feel,that's fine as well.No need to feel selfish about talking about yourself--we're all here to listen.
I really feel for you when you say you can't enjoy music just now,as I am currently pretty ill,and music makes me sad.I know how bad that feels if music has always been a big thing in your life,as it has in mine.Somebody started a thread on the anxiety forum about music----what you could listen to or not listen to when you're depressed/anxious---some folk just can't listen to anything,but some of us talked about how we found some relief in singing along to REALLY heavy stuff at top volume.
I hope you'll find the friendship on this site that I have.Are you getting any support anywhere else?Talked to your Dr?Please let us know how things are going.Life can be a frightening business--but you've survived this far,and good times can return,if you get the right help.I wish you good health and peace.
Posted 9/24/2008 12:37 PM (GMT 0)

southerngirl20

Welcome to HealingWell and you are normal, you are just going through a rough time.  You have already met some of our members and as you can tell they are wonderful and supportive.

I am so glad you found us and I look forward to getting to know you better.

Gentle Hugs
Kitt

Posted 9/26/2008 2:31 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Everyone!

I'm brand new here. I've been in the war against low-self esteem, chronic anxiety/depression for about 3-4 years now. There are good days and bad days as cliche as that sounds. I find myself constantly wishing I could change certain things about myself and all of the delusional/self-sabotaging thinking that comes with the above. Yet, I feel I am making progress with therapy and what not. It's not as fast as I'd like or instant as I'd like but it's coming. I hope I can contribute whatever knowledge I can about medications, the experience that comes from being there, and whatever else I can to this forum. It looks like a keeper!

-Travis
Posted 9/26/2008 5:56 AM (GMT 0)
cool  Hi everyone my name is debbie. I found this site looking for someone to talk to about living with only 1/2 of my small bowel.I got some A`s to my Q`s. Then I started talking on this site too.I am a mom to 9 kids ranging from 29 to 5 1/2 years old.I became very depressed 6 years ago when my twin sister died after surgery when she got a blood clot.I hurt my self very bad in jan. I am now disabiled.But now I take my anti-depressents everyday.I found out how much I really did want to live and how much my famaily  love me. My hope is that by telling other people about what has happened to me that I can help someone before thay do something like I did.
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